Talking About Sex Growing Up In Nigeria

"When
I was a child, I spoke as a child, I felt as a child, I thought as a child. Now
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Originally Posted by Robot

"When
I was a child, I spoke as a child, I felt as a child, I thought as a child. Now
...Read the full article.

How can I forget the typical Nigerian pattern of communication regarding sex education?

I wish now that my parents would have given me the most intimate details of sex instead of learning from those "agbero" UNIBEN boys! I had good teachers though! Apparently their parents had given them the "heads up"!

Now I made sure that all my kids knew about sex as from age 18months!

All my mother told me at the age of "menarch". . .a precocious 10 year old going on 11 in "JSS 1" (yeah! I was always in a hurry to do stuff. . .till I die I guess) was:

Now know you can't let any boy "touch" you! You are now a woman!!! Hmmm!

All my father for the first time in my life as a 19 year old sophomore in the UNIV was that:

My dear daughter, you are now a grown girl, I must tell you that many men would love their wives to be virgins:

Blah, blah, blah, blah blah! Typical bushman logic!

What do you have to say to that my dear? He asked me noticing I had tuned him out.

The only reply I could give him was "no comment"!

Poor dad! My darling mum had to tell him the next week or so that I was 2 months. . . ."P", and he was going to be a grandpa!!!!

At least I tried and waited till I got into the UNIV. With raging hormones at full blast!!! The good news is that by 24 I was done with having all the babies I could ever want in this life time!

he he he

Nigerian parents, please teach your daughters especially about sex/sexuality. Or one of those "prize" fighters from Alaba or New Benin/Onitsha/Idumota/Aba market will gladly teach them the where and what of it all!!!

As for the guys. . . Iya Nuru or any of your female housegirls would readily show you the ropes as many of you have already experienced.

One of my grandmothers was even the worst offender. . .all she did was listen outside the "toilet" to hear what kind of noise her grand-daughters' pee made when they urinated. If you urinated too loudly and caused too "sonorance" in there. . . your "P***Y" was wider than river Niger and River Benue combined! Very un-lady like.

Hmmmmm!

I still laff to this day. . . she would make comments like. . . see as una dey piss? Won ti baje!!!

Like females use "t***" to "piss" for crying out loud. What a miseducation!

She would say:

Una t**o dey make noise like "SHO-RO-RO-RO-RO". . . .LIKE PUMP"!

WTF? She Make me very uncomfortable so I started urinating outside if she was ever around me. . .to muffle the sound of "noisy pissing"!

Love you granny! I just loved your use of archaic profanities! I learned well from you. Gosh, that old lady had a foul yoruba mouth from inside one Abeokuta bush yonder!

Gotta luv em'!

[philipikita]

Welcome to manhood Julian.

When I was about 11 or 12, I was on holiday in my ancestral village. Returning from the farm with my cousin one afternoon, we decided to bath in the small river. My cousin pulled his panties and giggled, "hey! I have stains of 'birth fluid' inside my pants again". He asked if I do produce 'birth fluid'.
In my language, 'birth fluid' means sperm. I didn't understand one bit of what he meant, until a couple of years later, when was taught reproduction in my Form 2. I practically experienced the offloading of "birth fluid" in another couple of years, not from my family, but with my teeny girlfriend...

I think it would be good to let kids into how the family and procreation sustains society, telling all without ridiculing/desecrating the family institution and the sacredness of sex.

[Oru-Ama]

Julian... you simply brought back memories. I just dey laugh my head off here. I remember my father once telling me that "there is no need pinching a parcel you will eventually unwrap". I was 16 and very playful. Today's parents are doing better than ever before. Nice one up there!

[christen]

U do have a point there Julian. I sometimes get uncomfortable when there's a movie on TV showing a couple hugging and kissing and i noticed my little daughter of about 5 years watching as well.
I cant help but wonder what goes on in her mind; how much does she know and understand?
Most often i try to change the channel or distract her in case the action goes on for a while.
I Think the best thing really to start educating our children as early as they start talking and asking questions. Because in this so called modern day and jet age children easily and quickley get influenced from their surroundings least of which is the number one offender: peer pressure.

One thing is clear: the way we grew and were brought up is a lot different from the way our own children are growing up now!