Best way to love a Nigerian man

Eko — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 12:48:45 GMT

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Guarded internet surfing for kids

Kennedy — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 10:15:42 GMT

My son is nine years old and I want to him internet savvy. I want him to familiarize himself with internet operations as knowledge of the internet is a must these days. And I think he is in the right age for this. But I am also aware of the hazards of internet usage
and would like to safeguard my child from them. So I had chosen to have Kidsemail.org to have a safe email service for my kids. What yours view? Lets share it..

Is it the title or his money you love?

Eko — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 19:58:33 GMT

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With men, don’t be swayed by “cute”: “Cute’s good. But cute only lasts for so long, and then it’s, Who are you as a person? Don’t look at the bankbook or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul...When you’re dating a man, you should always feel good...You shouldn’t be in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t make you completely happy and make you feel whole.” read it here : http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life...printable=true

Michelle says what every woman looking to date should consider, not looks nor bank balance. Loving men should be more discerning than material things or looks.Some men need help along the way that only strong supportive women can provide.The period when the man is a nobody is the period couples bond the most.

Marrying Outside of Culture? (sorry kind of long post)

Nurse Ugonna — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 15:49:25 GMT

I'm an african american american woman and have been dating a Nigerian(Igbo) man for the last 3 years off and on. The situation is complicated, I do want honest opinions so I want to honest in my version of the story.

We were co-workers, both married BUT we were both in the middle of divorces, already filed. He approached and pursued me for months and months before I would even agree to seeing him outside of work. He was on his second marriage, both to Nigerian women. He had a 9 year old daughter from 1st marriage.
I was on my 1st marriage and I had a 9 and 14 year old ( this was 2-3 years ago).
Every fiber in my being said:no:.
Needless to say I finally gave in, even after hearing the horror stories. Nigerian/African men wanting submissive women, wanting to be in control, the more than one wife stories etc. etc.
Well, I almost instantly fell in :1love:love with man!!!!!! He is everything I wanted loving, nurturing, caring, attentive, responsible, hard working. I could go on and on with his positive attributes.

Well we really caught "it" from co-workers, friends, family. Everyone had an opinion. We listened to them all but continued to make our own decisions. Everything about us was put under scrutiny. He would constantly buy me gifts. If he purchased clothing then I would hear "thats just his way to control what you wear."
I can admit that I am an aggressive woman, at times dominant. I'm equally aggressive sexually, so there were comments from his friends/brothers that he was just taking in by the sex. (something he was not getting from the wife per him/them).
We both took the comments seriously about we were moving fast, we did attempt to slow it down, well after a year of dating(as he was still in a very serious battle with his wife about the divorce she hadnt worked in 3 of the 5 years of the marriage. She was 6months from getting her Bachelors in nursing. I am also a nurse so I know her income possibility. To have given so little she wanted sooooooo much. She had also been stashing money in a private account and lied about her fertility, stating she was unable to get pregnant but was secretly on the pill. My husband walked away, moved out and only had contact with the children.) we purchased my engagement ring and started planning our future.
I wanted to give him everything he wanted, he had been given such a bad deal in his orevious marriage, we were both out to please each other. As we plannes our future of course religion came up and that plays a major part!!!
The problem was was unwilling to convert to catholicism. That wasnt the only issue, I was trying with his help to learn some of the keywords of the language which I found VERY difficult!! Like everyone said I would, I started to have worries that he may cheat on me. I worried about the constant comments about nigerian men having problems with infidelity. Maybe it was "cold feet" on my part. I worried about being accepted by his culture. After 1 1/2 years we broke off the relationship. :cry:
Fast forward to present day, we both have transferred to other positions. (this was done while we were still together though). We still spoke every 2-3 months just "how are you?" "how are the kids", we may have seen each other every other month or so but only at his job, my job, lets meet for lunch, dinner.
His divorce is now final, he's in an apartment. My divorce was never final, I just gave up on the paperwork part after we broke off our relationship.
We are now seeing each other again, maybe for the last 2 months. Once again its just like we were never apart:2love:. My heart still flutters, my stomach still flips at the thought of him, to hear his voice and seeing him. I MELT when I'm in his arms!!!!!!!
I honestly dont KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! Should I worry about infidelity? his track record of 2 divorces? Is it really possible for the nigerian culture to accept a africam american woman? How will he(we) be viewed as marrying a divorced balck woman with 2 children?
I'm just asking for overall experiences/comments/suggestions??

The Village Square - Woman to Woman

Best way to love a Nigerian man

Guarded internet surfing for kids

Is it the title or his money you love?

Marrying Outside of Culture? (sorry kind of long post)