Would you marry a very good lady, whose faith/race/tribe is/are different from yours?

Would you marry a very good lady, whose faith, race or tribe differs from yours?

For Sisters: Would you marry a very good man, whose faith, race or tribe differs from yours?

If your answer is YES; why?

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[DaBishop]

Originally Posted by Djister

Vade Mecum,

This subject would have made for excellent conversation and very informative for the various sexes, tribes, races and people that constitute NVS if you did not, as you have made this and the Man-to-Man section, a platform for recruitment into your religious beliefs.

I believe that with greater respect for the varied people and possible opinions possible on NVS, we would have had more 'exciting' discussions than answer your posted questions for your sunday-preaching research benefits.

These questions, when reviewed and the commentary you offer are nothing more than an elicitation of guinea pigs for religious research.

You quote the Good Book extensively, as if the rest of us are not capable of deciphering the words or meanings therein.

I salute your dedication to the 'conversion of infidels' campaign.

Djister

Djister:
Would you just enjoy learning from his perspective of using the good book.
Surely, there must be some good lessons to be learned there for you to call it the good book...

Why is it when we quote confuscious, Shakespeare or Darwin, it is okay and we seem learned, but when we quote Jesus and the world's all-time overall bestseller, the Bible, it becomes an offense...even to some professing 'Christians'.

Think about it.

[Djister]

@Ula-Lisa:

Here come the Crusaders! I noticed the woodwork ripple.

Na you sabi which offence you dey take with Christianity.

Please start a section on religious faith on NVS and preach to your heart's content. I have granted you and your flock that, shebi?

Some of us do not live 'limited' lives hence we sometimes like to have varied discussions without digression, particularly for self-serving purposes.

Your definition of 'Christians' may be more fashionable than mine. Similarly you may dress yourselves in cloaks that do not fit, what can I challenge in that?

The deceit lies in the initial pretense that this is an open discussion only for it to be Hijacked to spread ulterior motive.

I am not in the groove to battle with religious juggernauts however please feel free to extended this particular discussion beyond the realms of your capacity.

I do not believe in and pander to self-deceit neither do I need a band of followers to tag along with me.

The Bible, Shakespeare, Darwin et al are all part and parcel of our lives and development. We read all with the intention of learning and knowledge. Broad based knowledge Ula-Lisa, ever heard of the term?

When Moslems do it, it is deemed fanatical and evil; when Christians do it, that's the way to go.

Total religious intolerance and enforced cultism in both cases if you ask me.

I shall make my choices Ula-Lisa as I do not have a Herd Mentality, and I am assisted by a God given capacity to assess issues myself.

You all may feel an assumed title of Pastor buys your irreverence, you may well be correct if all you are accustomed to are those seeking redemption and will accept anything they are being fed.

You and the Crusaders may know God better than I do, good luck to you. If it is the same God I grew up talking to everyday, then you sure have something else coming your way.

I guess your pledge to the authorities when you were about to be thrown out of America was that you were a Man of God abi? What that had to do with infringing the rules, as alleged, I do not know.

You have made my point exactly as the discussion has now entered your preferred realm, welcome to the discussion Reverend Pastor Ula-Lisa. The stage is yours!


Djister

[DaBishop]

Djister:
Without adhominem and rigmarole, this was the topic as written by the same VM

Would you marry a very good lady, whose faith/race/tribe is/are different from yours?

Laid in order, 'faith' was first written by the proposer herein, whom many persons have addressed as 'pastor'. You did not have to contribute to it.

It is ma contention that one need not contribute to threads that THEY have no interest in. I did not contribute on the thread of the 'Third Leg' for this reason....a kind of live and let live...if you have not noticed, although I am an unapologetic Christian known by even the authorities whom you mention here as 'dangerous' I do not subscribe to all religious threads. You do not have to contribute here, sir.

And yes, I live a very varied life too with even arcane intellectual contribution as evidenced here....

http://www.nigeriavillagesquare.com/...la-lisa/2.html

and on diverse threads.

I guess your pledge to the authorities when you were about to be thrown out of America was that you were a Man of God abi? What that had to do with infringing the rules, as alleged, I do not know.

Cheap shot sir, you don't want to go there!

I remain,
Da Bishop

[emj]

Originally Posted by depirate

@ ISL

I think we mean social class (class as you mean is independent of social class and i agree wholeheartedly with you there - she either has it or she does not (the difficult part is knowing if she thinks YOU have it)

@ Djister,

To follow on from your comment below

You forgot - or take it as gospel truth.

@ emj,

How you come take forget me - abi wetin ISL carri? (Depirate clipping - or is it nibbling - ears)

Depirate

Hmmm Depirate...come closer so i can whisper into your ears what ISL has.......be careful, Don't start 4th World War o....ISL does not take any encroachment into his territory lightly o...he ran a certain villager outta town becos of mua


PS>>>>, the last time i checked.....there was no restriction on comments....remember the mkt place of ideas....someone started a thread and wanted to know various mindset...ain't so?

Next qweshion shld be, Will you marry a broda/sister that picks his/her nose or suffers from S.A.S.S...short attention span syndrome?

[Alexa]

Would I marry a very good man whose faith,tribe,race,money making abilities is/are different from mine???

I'm not sure what 'very good man' means.Is the goodness in his attitude,demeanor,shagtitude,cooking skills,romance or what?Since I don't know which 'very good' you mean,I'll leave that unanswered.

I will not marry a man who is not of the same faith with me,meaning I cannot marry a non-christian,marriage has too many things to work on and I would not want to add extra work if I can help it.If he is of another race,Caucasian(with blue or green eyes,I'm a sucker for eyes)I will marry him;if he is from another Nigerian tribe I could marry him if our cultural differences are not much but he has to agree to devote time to teach me the language because I want to know when 'his' people are conspiring to sell me/beat me up/clone me/whatever.

Now if his money making abilities are superior to mine,that's fine with me and I'll consider marrying him but if mine are superior and he learns how to dwell with me in peace,that's also fine and I'll consider marrying him too.(ooops,I just realized this wasn't part of the question.Oh well...)

[Vade Mecum]

[quote=Alexa;276716]

Would I marry a very good man whose faith,tribe,race,money making abilities is/are different from mine???

I'm not sure what 'very good man' means.Is the goodness in his attitude,demeanor,shagtitude,cooking skills,romance or what?Since I don't know which 'very good' you mean,I'll leave that unanswered.

'Very good man' = The meaning is subjective. How would you define a 'very good man' : What qualities, are you looking for in a man? It is about your life, your future. We are talking about the man, you would be spending the rest of your life with. We are talking about the guy, who would be the father of your children, your old age companion, etc, etc. Therefore, your idea of 'a very good man' rules the definition terrain. Now, feel free to give that aspect of the poser another shot. Go gurl

I will not marry a man who is not of the same faith with me,meaning I cannot marry a non-christian,marriage has too many things to work on and I would not want to add extra work if I can help it. If he is of another race,Caucasian(with blue or green eyes,I'm a sucker for eyes)I will marry him

if he is from another Nigerian tribe I could marry him if our cultural differences are not much but he has to agree to devote time to teach me the language because I want to know when 'his' people are conspiring to sell me/beat me up/clone me/whatever

I observed that: why you would be interested in knowing your prospective husband's language, to help you, know, "when they are conspiriing to sell/beat me up/clone me/ whatever": you did not balance this attitudinal perspective with the positive angle. Have you considered knowing the language of your prospective husband, so that you can properly and very deeply appreciate the praises and other good remarks that your in-laws to be, would hopefully shower on you, for your great cooking skills, humility, good caring attitude, egalitarianism, spirituality, respect for in-laws etc etc. My dear Alexa, the mind set, with which we plunge into marriage, matters a lot. Often time, we get that, which we hope for. Hope for loving in-laws and not in-laws that will beat you up nor clone you. Well, they must love you too much, to want to clone you and have more Alexa's

Again, I observed that you were not worried about knowing the language of your husband, should you marry a caucasian. You think caucasians do not gossip nor conspire to beat up daughters-in-law? Again, we must discard long in-grained, mental attitudes, that would only serve as road blocks, to our enjoying a life of marital bliss. Cheers

Now if his money making abilities are superior to mine, that's fine with me and I'll consider marrying him but if mine are superior and he learns how to dwell with me in peace, that's also fine and I'll consider marrying him too.(ooops,I just realized this wasn't part of the question.Oh well...

Yes, it's part of the question. If you desire a to marry a man, properly hardwired with the ability to make money; then, that's part of the constituent ingredients, that makes a man, a very good man, within the confines of your very own definition of 'a very good man'. Remember, this is about your marriage. You determine the boundaries, and the rules, that are applicable here; subject only to scriptural standards for christians and public policy standards for everyone else.

Alexa, my sincere wish for you; is for God to bless you, with a loving, caring, honest and above all a true christian husband.

[Vade Mecum]

Originally Posted by .bebi

When we talk about faith here,I assume we are talking about different religions not denominations. Correct me if Im worng.

The poser, was about different religions. However, you are free to expand your response to that aspect of the poser. You could address the issue(s) of marrying a christian / non-christian and / or ensuring that both christian marital partners also pick a home church, for themselves and the children to come from God. Remember, it's your choice. You are giving us your perspective.

Enjoy.

[Alexa]

[quote=Vade Mecum;276723]

Originally Posted by Alexa

Would I marry a very good man whose faith,tribe,race,money making abilities is/are different from mine???




'Very good man' = The meaning is subjective. How would you define a 'very good man' : What qualities, are you looking for in a man? It is about your life, your future. We are talking about the man, you would be spending the rest of your life with. We are talking about the guy, who would be the father of your children, your old age companion, etc, etc. Therefore, your idea of 'a very good man' rules the definition terrain. Now, feel free to give that aspect of the poser another shot. Go gurl!

Father of my children?Old age companion?You make it sound so good.A very good man(IMO) is faithful,fears and loves the Lord,humorous,hardworking,friendly,generous,kind,r omantic.Now if he is also good looking and can cook(looks mighty good with an apron around his waist-arrrrrghhh!),I'll be hard pressed not to walk him down that aisle.He needs to be able to learn to deal and live with my quirks(I have plenty of those)as I will his(hopefully,he has none).



Yes, it's part of the question. If you desire a to marry a man, properly hardwired with the ability to make money; then, that's part of the ingredients that makes a man, a very good man, within the confines of your very own definition of 'a very good man'. Remember, this is about your marriage. You determine the boundaries, and the rules, that are applicable here; subject only to scriptural standards for christians and public policy standards for everyone else.

Oh,I forgot to clarify.The Caucasian I meant is a Caucasian that speaks English(I wouldn't need to learn his language because I speak it).Yea,I also would like to learn the other guy(Naija from a different tribe)so I can understand what he is saying when he is paying me compliments and whispering sweet nothings in my tender ears.Hope my answers are better this time.

[Vade Mecum]

Originally Posted by Djister

Vade Mecum,

This subject would have made for excellent conversation and very informative for the various sexes, tribes, races and people that constitute NVS if you did not, as you have made this and the Man-to-Man section, a platform for recruitment into your religious beliefs.

I believe that with greater respect for the varied people and possible opinions possible on NVS, we would have had more 'exciting' discussions than answer your posted questions for your sunday-preaching research benefits.

These questions, when reviewed and the commentary you offer are nothing more than an elicitation of guinea pigs for religious research.

You quote the Good Book extensively, as if the rest of us are not capable of deciphering the words or meanings therein.

I salute your dedication to the 'conversion of infidels' campaign.

Djister

My good friend Djister,

I been wan answer you before now, but for the serious nkwuobi, wey dem pepperize propalee , and dem come take am confront plus challenge me for somewhere, naim nor allow man pikin allow any distraction.

As I come say, make I comot to come respond to your 'made in Taiwan' fake quarrel, wey you create to take prematurely escape from our conversation; naim dem come re-challenge me with 'elders grade' Isi-Ewu, for the place, wey I been dey.

Now, wey I don properlee see your camouflage 'belligerence post'; I wonder why man like you go dey voke, like person wey dem thief him balls. Abee you and Jesse Jackson been quanta

TAKE NOTICE AND NOTICE IS HEREBY GIVEN, that I have rejected your dummy quarrel and your improper resignation from this thread.

You must return to this thread to enable us finish our conversation properly and gracefully. Next time, make you nor forget say : Ee don take monkey for inside bush plus say, wen wayo man die, na wayo man dey bury am.

[Vade Mecum]

[quote=Alexa;276728]

Originally Posted by Vade Mecum

Father of my children?Old age companion?You make it sound so good.A very good man(IMO) is faithful,fears and loves the Lord,humorous,hardworking,friendly,generous,kind,r omantic.Now if he is also good looking and can cook(looks mighty good with an apron around his waist-arrrrrghhh!),I'll be hard pressed not to walk him down that aisle.He needs to be able to learn to deal and live with my quirks(I have plenty of those)as I will his(hopefully,he has none).

Oh,I forgot to clarify.The Caucasian I meant is a Caucasian that speaks English(I wouldn't need to learn his language because I speak it).Yea,I also would like to learn the other guy(Naija from a different tribe)so I can understand what he is saying when he is paying me compliments and whispering sweet nothings in my tender ears.Hope my answers are better this time.

That's my beautiful and brilliant Alexa.

Now, you got it right.

Clap for yourself.

Will I have married a very good man from a different faith race tribe different from mine?

What makes him "good" if he does not speak my language....eat my food.....share my culture and passion for most things in my heritage? I would keep him as a friend but will not marry him. I prefer 'comfort' in the familiar without a lot of drama. Even if he is "good".....I really do not want to deal with the 'adventure' of his different family/racial/religious background. That would overwhelm all the goodness and usefulness he may have in my life. The devil I know is most certainly more appealing to me than the angel I do not know. I would rather hunt for one "good" one from my neighborhood and 'train' him to my specifications.

Hey...just a product of my environment.....love comes last.......potentials and usefulness first. Mama taught me that. You marry for usefulness not love.....love comes later......after the dude has proved 'useful'. Na love I go chop?


Different Faith.

Absolutely NOT!...Not negotiable....I don't want all argument and too much noise of different beliefs in my house.

Different Race.

Absolutely NOT!....Not negotiable...........Too much drama and isolation from my own family network. I love my extended family too much to isolate them from me either and vice versa. They make up my strongest support system.

Different Tribe.....somewhat negotiable if the other party is not too 'traditional or with strong cultural ties' that would interfere with my relationship with him....like being a polygamist background, or a some native-goat of a 'chief' or some really backward "Sharia" fellow.

Too late to find out....Water under the bridge. Will gladly 'date' one....but would not marry one.....different from my background. I don't like stress.

http://www.religioustolerance.org/ifm_divo.htm

Inter-faith marriage divorce data and opinions:

Vera Lawlor, from The Bergen Record in Hakensack, NJ., wrote that inter-faith marriages have a failure rate that is 50% higher than same-faith marriages. She does not cite a source for this datum. Since the rate for all marriages is on the order of 50%, this would imply an almost 75% failure rate for inter-faith marriages - 3 chances out of 4. 5

Is it 'rocket' science?

[peterosa]

I am not a racist i will marry who so ever i come across regardless of the tribe and religion.

Yeah right! Yet you cannot even deal with the notion of 'marrying a career' lady.

ha ha ha

Nothing to do with being a racist/tribalist. It is good to know your limitations having studied what works best in your life. The less stress and confusion you will have. Help keep the divorce rates down abeg.....without all this unnecessary gambling out of desperation to marry.

So you can always make "THE BESTEST" decisions without regrets in your live...ALWAYS!

Know yourself nor be cuss.....na blessing from God!