Tradional Marriage List

People ... help oo. My friend has just fainted. He just received the following list from his in-laws for their traditional marriage next year.

This is after he and said wife have been married for about 3 years and 2 kids later.

Insult to the Family For making her have a baby before "marriage"
1. One She Goat
2. One bottle of St. Remy
3. Two Carton of Star Beer
4. Two crates of soft drinks
5. One bottle of native gin
6. Two Bottles of wine
7. N10,000.00

Consultation marriage list for the father (MBUP)
1. 2 bottles of three in one whisky
2. 1 carton of Explendido Brandy
3. 10 litres of native gin
4. 10 cartons of star beer
5. 6 bottles of Gordon Gin
6. 3 cartons of small stout
7. 1 carton of wine
8. 10 Jars of palm wine
9. 3 Heads of Tobacco
10. 3 line stones
11. 3 bunches of cola nuts
12. 1 bottle of grinding sniff
13. 1 roll of Benson and hedges cigarettes
14. 1 packet of matches
15. cash of N5,000.00 for breaking of cola

Full Proper Marriage List for the father
1. 2 pieces of hollandis Wax
2. 1 Chieftaincy shirt
3. 1 hat
4. 1 big towel
5. 1 pair of shoes and socks
6. 1 walking stick
7. 1 wrist watch
8. 1 dozen underwear
9. 1 she goat with N10,000 for cutting goats head
10. Matchet with cover and beet
11. 15 cartons of star beer
12. 5 cartons of champion beer
13. 2 cartons of brandy
14. 3 bottles of 3 in one whisky
15. 1 caron of wine (Don Morris)
16. 5 crates of minerals (Soft drinks)
17. 4 crates of Guinness malt
18. 4 heads of Tobacco
19. 1 bottle of grinding snuff
20. 4 line stones
21. 4 bunches of cola nuts
22. 1 smal basin and knife for the cola nuts
23. 15 Jars of palm win
24. 20 liters of native gin
25. 1 modern brief case with N150,000

For the mother – consultation (MBUP)
1. 6 bottles of campari
2. 4 crates of minerals (soft drinks)
3. 2 crates of Guinness Malts
4. I piece of English wax
5. 1 blouse
6. 1 basin with cover full of crayfish
7. 1 Head tie
8. 2 bags of salt
9. basin with pepper

For the Mother – Full marriage (proper marriage)
1. 2 pieces of Dutch Wax and one lase
2. 3 assorted blouses
3. head tie (canopy)
4. 2 Paris of shoes
5. one wrist watch + 1 dozen of brassiers
6. 1 hand bag and 6 underwear
7. 1 big basin full of crayfish with cover
8. 1 big basin full of pepper with cover
9. 3 bags of salt
10. 1 umbrella
11. 1 suit –case with N50,000
12. 1 caton of Eva wine
13. 1 big bottle of Yago wine
14. 4 crates of Guinness malt
15. 4 crates of minerals (soft ddrinks)
16. 1 bag of rice
17. 5 tubers of yams

Nto Ete (family members)
1. 3 cartons of star beer
2. 1 bottles of St. Remy
3. 3 Jars of palm wine
4. 1 roll of besson and hedges cigarette
5. 1 packets of matches
6. Nka Ekong of N10,000

Youth
1. Football
2. 1 bottle of gin
3. 1 roll of St. Morris cigarette
4. 1 packet of matches
5. N2,000

Iban Nda Usung (Women Vanguard)
1. 1 bottle of wine
2. 1 crates of minerals (soft drink)
3. N1,500 in cash

Grand Father (Uncle)
1. piece of wax loin cloth
2. 1 long sleaves shirt
3. 1 bottle of brandy
4. 1 wrist watch.

EDem Eka
1. 1 carton of beer
2. 1 bottle of brandy
3. 1 Jar of palm wine
4. 1 piece of English wax
5. 1 long sleaves shirt
6. 1 bag of salt

HELP!!!!!!!

Iye · Nov 7, 2009 , 12:00 AM

Na Lateesha sista em wan marry

if yes, we need to get her to intervene.

BTW i support the insult to the family package, it should be X2.

Lala...are you sure its not your list??

Lalakokofefe · Nov 7, 2009 , 12:12 AM

My list ke? If to say na my own, no wahala now. I go just jejely give dem dere daughter back, keep my pikins dem.

Lalakokofefe · Nov 7, 2009 , 12:13 AM

Originally Posted by Iye

Na Lateesha sista em wan marry if yes, we need to get her to intervene.

Even if na Lateesha sister.... na wetin?

25. 1 modern brief case with N150,000

Iye · Nov 7, 2009 , 12:21 AM

I just remember...there's room for bargaining o...so make the bobo explore that too.

paying small, small is another option

valteena · Nov 7, 2009 , 12:27 AM

Dat one na small one now. Your friend lucky say dem no put building of house for the papa and mama and training the young brother or sister to uni on the list.

Abeg make your friend go cough out jare and stop moaning abi im nefa hear say obe to dun owo lo pa ni? (soup wey sweet na money kill am literarily speaking). There is nothing untoward about that list, it is just basic lol

UncleTisha · Nov 7, 2009 , 01:09 AM

Oluwato · Nov 7, 2009 , 01:18 AM

Good entertainment, I had a nice laugh

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valteena · Nov 7, 2009 , 01:20 AM

Originally Posted by Iye

I just remember...there's room for bargaining o...so make the bobo explore that too.

paying small, small is another option

True talk there Iye. Infact for my neck of wood, you no dey pay the whole dowrie finish o. You must leave something wey you go pay through out your life or marriage life lol. That is the richness of our tradition and makes event like marriage ceremony more exciting.

Yep you gorritt I am a big fan and believer in our traditional marriage ceremonies lol

MrsChocT · Nov 7, 2009 , 01:25 AM

Lalaks...is this your list for a Yoruba or Igbo traditional marriage. If it is next year, he has time. Maybe the recession go don end.

Compare with this one...I think this list below is economical...for a Yoruba traditonal engagement..

Eja Osan 42pcs (maybe cat fish)
Big pieces of Yam 42pcs
Obi ajopa 42 (kolanut)
Orogbo 42 (kolanut)
Atare 42 (translation needed)
Honey 2 bottles
Salt 2 bags
Wine 2 Cartons
Schinapps 2 bottles
Soft drinks 4 crates
Stout 4 crates
Malta Guiness 4 crates
assorted fruits - 2 baskets
Aadun (Someone pls translate)
Assorted biscuit 4 cartons
Assorted sweet/candy
One full Box of clothes
Decanter bottles - 2 (Dunno what that is

)
Shoes and bags - (I like

)
Laces and high end materials (I like

)
Holy bible or Quran
Engagement Ring (Preferably with the real deal

)
Two beautiful dishes (china)
2 bottles of wine
3 sets of fine stainless dishes
Roll of sugar -2 packets.

Lalakokofefe · Nov 7, 2009 , 01:40 AM

Mrs ChocT, the wedding is next year oooo, easter.

The question my friend has is, is this type of list "normal"? The in-laws are from Akwa Ibom. In fairness though, he is marrying the first daughter.

Valteena, is the list really negotiable?

Lalakokofefe · Nov 7, 2009 , 01:47 AM

Originally Posted by MrsChocT

Lalaks...is this your list for a Yoruba or Igbo traditional marriage. If it is next year, he has time. Maybe the recession go don end.

Compare with this one...I think this list below is economical...for a Yoruba traditonal engagement..

Eja Osan 42pcs (maybe cat fish)
Big pieces of Yam 42pcs
Obi ajopa 42 (kolanut)
Orogbo 42 (kolanut)
Atare 42 (translation needed)
Honey 2 bottles
Salt 2 bags
Wine 2 Cartons
Schinapps 2 bottles
Soft drinks 4 crates
Stout 4 crates
Malta Guiness 4 crates
assorted fruits - 2 baskets
Aadun (Someone pls translate)
Assorted biscuit 4 cartons
Assorted sweet/candy
One full Box of clothes
Decanter bottles - 2 (Dunno what that is)
Shoes and bags - (I like )
Laces and high end materials (I like )
Holy bible or Quran
Engagement Ring (Preferabbly with the real deal )
Two beautiful dishes (china)
2 bottles of wine
3 sets of fine stainless dishes
Roll of sugar -2 packets.

MrsChocT.. this one is nothing. At least your own no get underwear...

MrsChocT · Nov 7, 2009 , 01:49 AM

Originally Posted by Lalakokofefe

MrsChocT.. this one is nothing. At least your own no get underwear...

That's why I said it's an economical list. Please does anyone else have engagement list for Yorubas? Do share, I love to learn new stuff.

valteena · Nov 7, 2009 , 01:51 AM

Originally Posted by Lalakokofefe

Mrs ChocT, the wedding is next year oooo, easter.

The question my friend has is, is this type of list "normal"? The in-laws are from Akwa Ibom. In fairness though, he is marrying the first daughter.

Valteena, is the list really negotiable?

Some aspects of the list can be waived while some are sacrosanct. But he needs to cultivate the goodwill of any member of the wife's family appointed as intermediary or points person for the traditional rites for him to secure some waiver.

Lalakokofefe · Nov 7, 2009 , 01:55 AM

Originally Posted by valteena

Some aspects of the list can be waived while some are sacrosanct. But he needs to cultivate the goodwill of any member of the wife's family appointed as intermediary or points person for the traditional rites.

How can they be waived? and what do you mean by sacrosanct?

MrsChocT · Nov 7, 2009 , 01:59 AM

Originally Posted by Lalakokofefe

How can they be waived? and what do you mean by sacrosanct?

It means they cannot be waived, they are sacred and inviolable. Sometimes dictionary.com is your friend, when people blow big big grammar

Lalakokofefe · Nov 7, 2009 , 02:05 AM

Originally Posted by MrsChocT

It means they cannot be waived, they are sacred and inviolable. Sometimes dictionary.com is your friend, when people blow big big grammar

No mind me jare.... na night school i go.

valteena · Nov 7, 2009 , 02:06 AM

Originally Posted by Lalakokofefe

How can they be waived? and what do you mean by sacrosanct?

Sacrosanct means stuff he must provide, they are inviolable, like the she goat, kolanut, palm wine, hot drinks, snuff, drinks, tubers of yam, salt, wrappers.

The number of cartons of beer for instance can be reduced, likewise stuff like wristwatch, underwears etc can be waived.

Iye · Nov 7, 2009 , 02:10 AM

Watin dey make me laff be say….your friend just see fine woman begin fire

him no even consider the implications

Lalakokofefe · Nov 7, 2009 , 02:11 AM

Thanks Valteena.

They also offered help him get the stuff, so he doesn't have to transport them from his place.