The Adventure Called Motherhood

This (write up) made me miss my mama so. But I enjoyed it. You might too. Orisha bi'iya mi kosi, e ba mi kira fun mama mi, e bami ki mama mi ku'she. This (one of my best of Asa), is for all the NVS mothers who continue to sacrifice themselves for their children. I am not forgetting the wonderful fathers, but let our mothers take this stage biko.

YouTube- Asa - So beautiful

YouTube- Asa - So beautiful

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We are sitting at lunch when my daughter casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of starting a family. “We’re taking a survey,” she says, half-joking. “Do you think I should have a baby?” “It will change your life,” I say, carefully keeping my tone neutral. “I know,” she says, “no more sleeping in on weekends, no more spontaneous vacations….” But that is not what I meant at all. I look at my daughter trying to decide what to tell her. I want her to know what she will never learn in childbirth classes. I want to tell her that the physical wounds of child bearing will heal, but that becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional wound so raw that she will forever be vulnerable.I consider warning her that she will never again read a newspaper without asking “What if that had been MY child?” That every plane crash, every house fire will haunt her. That when she sees pictures of starving children, she will wonder if anything could be worse than watching your child die.I look at her carefully manicured nails and stylish suit and think that no matter how sophisticated she is, becoming a mother will reduce her to the primitive level of a bear protecting her cub. That an urgent call of “Mom!” will cause her to drop her best crystal without a moment’s hesitation. I feel I should warn her that no matter how many years she has invested in her career, she will be professionally derailed by motherhood. She might arrange for childcare, but one day she will be going into an important business meeting and she will think of her baby’s sweet smell. She will have to use every ounce of her discipline to keep from running home, just to make sure her baby is all right. I want my daughter to know that everyday decisions will no longer be routine. That a five year old boy’s desire to go to the men’s room rather than the women’s at McDonald’s will become a major dilemma. That right there, in the midst of clattering trays and screaming children, issues of independence and gender identity will be weighed against the prospect that a child molester may be lurking in that restroom. However decisive she may be at the office, she will second-guess herself constantly as a mother.Looking at my attractive daughter, I want to assure her that eventually she will shed the pounds of pregnancy, but she will never feel the same about herself. That her life, now so important, will be of less value to her once she has a child. That she would give
it up in a moment to save her offspring, but will also begin to hope for more years-not to accomplish her own dreams, but to watch her child accomplish theirs.I want her to know that a caesarean scar or shiny stretch marks will become badges of honour. My daughter’s relationship with her husband will change, but not in the way she thinks. I wish she could understand how much more you can love a man who is careful to powder the baby or who never hesitates to play with his child. I think she should know that she will fall in love with him again for reasons she would now find very unromantic. I wish my daughter could sense the bond she will feel with women throughout history who have tried to stop war, prejudice and drunk driving. I hope she will understand why I can think rationally about most issues, but become temporarily insane when I discuss the threat of nuclear war to my children’s future. I want to describe to my daughter the exhilaration of seeing your child learn to ride a bike. I want to capture for her the belly laugh of a baby who is touching the soft fur of a dog or a cat for the first time. I want her to taste the joy that is so real it actually hurts.

My daughter’s quizzical look makes me realize that tears have formed in my eyes. “You’ll never regret it,” I finally say. Then I reach across the table, squeeze my daughter’s hand and offer a silent prayer for her, and for me, and for all of the mere mortal women who stumble their way into this most wonderful of callings. This blessed gift from God . . . that of being a Mother.

[Oluwato]

Thanks Anike, I am wearing the stretch marks and "smiling face" (bikini cut) C/S scar as badges of honor for life! My boys were worth and will always be worth it all.

OKAY, this following is graphic (c/s), whoever cannot handle it, should not watch!

YouTube- Cesarean Birth (C-section) Delivery & Birth

[Marin]

Becoming and being a mother brings previously unimaginable joy and tenderness. It also brings unexpected anxiety, you have tears in your eyes just at the thought of your child having to learn necessary lessons - like the fact that hot things can burn etc. The writer is also very right about one loving a caring hands-on father even more. I can recommend it to everyone. If it doesn't happen naturally/with medical intervention, there is always the option of adoption.

[shinycoin]

Anike, i say it again: you're one heck of a great writer.

This was so beautifully worded and eloquently expressed with full emotion.

Great write up say i, and thanks for sharing!

[Ayomide]

Originally Posted by shinycoin

Anike, i say it again: you're one heck of a great writer.

This was so beautifully worded and eloquently expressed with full emotion.

Great write up say i, and thanks for sharing!

Mr. Shiny,

You're always so enthusiastic and I appreciate that about you but I don't think Anike (and I know she is a great writer, yes!) wrote that great piece. I don't believe she's 'Mufu' oh.

[Anike]

Originally Posted by shinycoin

Anike, i say it again: you're one heck of a great writer.

This was so beautifully worded and eloquently expressed with full emotion.

Great write up say i, and thanks for sharing!

Shinycoin, thanks for the compliment... but Ay is right that I did not write that o. I am glad you enjoyed it though.

Thanks for the compliment, Ay.

[Anike]

Originally Posted by Oluwato

Thanks Anike, I am wearing the stretch marks and "smiling face" (bikini cut) C/S scar as badges of honor for life! My boys were worth and will always be worth it all.

OKAY, this following is graphic (c/s), whoever cannot handle it, should not watch!

YouTube- Cesarean Birth (C-section) Delivery & Birth

Thanks for sharing. I once saw a woman on Discovery Health who was conscious through the process. Either she refused to be sedated or she was not offered the option, I don't recall.

[Oluwato]

Originally Posted by Anike

Thanks for sharing. I once saw a woman on Discovery Health who was conscious through the process. Either she refused to be sedated or she was not offered the option, I don't recall.

It depends on the type of sedation, only general anesthesia knocks one out, with spinal tap and epidural one can be conscious throughout.