Nigerian Single Women in Diaspora have one common goal?

I think our ladies in the house need to be aware of this article in Gamji.

I find too much stereotyping and generalizations in the article. There are many single and materialistic women at home as well and there are many at home and in the diapora who dont fit Mallam Habu's descriptions.

Maybe Habu's frame of reference are those purdah women in zamfara or wherever

www.gamji.com/NEWS3461.htm

Nigerian Single Women in Diaspora: In the United States, for Instance

By Murtala Bala Habu
Cleveland, Tennessee, United States
murtala_habu@lycos.com

Snapshots

Nigerian single women in Diaspora have one common goal, to find the right Nigerian or African men in anticipation for ‘relationships’ that leads to ‘permanent relationships.’ The pro-side of the United States on Nigerian women is that, it prevents most from sexual intercourse at will, but at randomly and high percentages are still virgins at least in America. The con side is that the United States is denying most to be mothers in early ages or at their chosen time. Subsequently, in the United States, for example, these women are equivalent to American women who are desperately looking for decent men over the Internet, churches and other marketplaces.

The real question one may need to ask is; are Nigerian women seriously seeking to find Mr. Right? If so, what approach do these women implement when many Nigerian women are very shy in approaching Nigerian men for date(s) instead they expect Nigerian men whose mind are divided between (African women-25%) and (American women-black and white-75 %?) Further, many Nigerian or African men are already seeking permanent residencies through American citizens due to Nigerian women attitudes or conditions most find themselves in the United States? Very importantly, most of these men are not rich enough to be fully responsible with unfair labor market that has being affecting Africans? On the other hand, it is very disturbing to note, most Nigerian women in Diaspora are very materialistic, this very aspect of the west is destabilizing Africans for example Nigerians, a Nigerian woman looking for the right one would rather be seeking for man with very sharp eyes what she can gain from the man. How does he dress? How much does he have? What kind of car does he have? And whatever lists you can add to the list…? At the end of the analyses, will I be secure if I go-out or marry him? With such greediness which is very common among Africans, these women end up not having honeymoons (marry), but continue to pray very hard in whatever divines to have one to marry. Meanwhile the hindrance is their taste or choice that is delaying and significantly denying them from having the best, but with insincere mind the kind of men they are seeking; instead of looking for a nice and stable relationships and hopefully stable home in the future.

The Bottom Line

Nigerian women in America must always put in mind that African society was not built on how much individuals have, but if one likes the person they see in terms of relationships with sincere attitudes. I strongly believe that, materializations are denying Nigerian women from existing properly, therefore, if Nigerian women in Diaspora can distaste most of the materialistic demand, this would be first step toward their future engagements. The next step is to stop being shy in approaching a Nigerian or African that they wish to be in relationship with in Diaspora. As well, travel home (Africa) and start searching for Mr. Right-cautiously just as most Nigerian men do go home to look for their soul mates, as such Nigerian women must not only hope of finding one among good Nigerians or Africans in Diaspora but also at home (Africa). Nigerian women cannot continue to hang around for Mr. Right, at 30s, 40s, 50s or even 60s? Do something! I rest my observations!

[Gen Sani Abacha]

Big K, na so so woman palava you dey post sha! Haba!! Shebi una don marry now ? Abi yu dey expand ya harem ? :lol

ciao

[Big-K]

GSA,

Comot dia. You no like woman? abi no be on top Indian woman you take die?:lol

Anyway, me don dey seriously hooked up and even then my per capita income no fit allow me to expand my harem. But I still love all women.

now wetin you think about the nonsense wey this mallam write.

[Gen Sani Abacha]

Big K,
I think the mallam is entitled to his own opinion. I actually read the piece on gamji myself originally and I think it was poorly written ( apart from my disagreement with his sentiments ). This was just blatant stereotyping!
No Naija woman should leave any sleep over this. That's all I've got to say for now.

ciao

[Uncle Sam]

The writer's name is not Mallam. His name is Murtala Bala Habu.

Haba, Big K!

[Meticulous]

Maybe my brain is working overtime here...

But US, I am confused again. Is your beef with the whole thing just Big K's typo, i.e. "Mallam" vs. "Murtala" issue...

Am I missing something?

[Uwaa Sef]

Uncle Sam,

See as Meticulous dey shadow you all over the place, you siddon dey look anya anya.You be jew man? You wan make God gi' you titi, come gi' you mat too? Make you kuku settle am now, make man rest for am. Chei!

Later

[Uncle Sam]

Meti,

Trust me- its not a typo. Actually, I was expecting Oga BK to change it.

Uwa Sef- You sef.

[Oluwato]

That was a good laugh

[Meticulous]

US, thanks for the clarification. I imagined that you said what you said to Big K, because you had assumed that Big K was using the "Mallam" derogatorily.

Uwaa Sef, abeg my broken English is still in its infancy and you totally lost me there. Could you please break down what you said?, i.e.

....look anya anya.You be jew man? You wan make God gi' you titi, come gi' you mat too? Make you kuku settle am now, make man rest for am. Chei!

By the way, this Mallam, I mean Murtala dude is way off left base. Apart from his really low quality article, I am forced to wonder what type of women he hangs out with.

Almost seems as though he is bitter because some Nigerian lady in the Disapora dumped him...

Those gamji editors should do a better job at screening/editing the articles they put up...

[Big-K]

Uncle Sam,

Mallam is not a derogatory word. It simply means 'Mister' or common man, and I'm sure Danladi, Ebe, or Zaiyol can corroborate this.

Its southerners especially people in the southwest that mistakenly use the term in a derogatory manner to refer to Hausa people.

[Uwaa Sef]

Meticulous:

Pardon my tardy response. Just haven't been able to join fellow villagers lately.

Now, to my "anya anya" post (by the way, "anya" is Igbo for "eye"), sorry, I should have known better, ie., should have been aware that there's this disconnect between old school and new school pidgin english). However, in a nutshell, I was just "chastising" Uncle Sam for being too "slow". But wait a minute. That your 'infancy' line get as e be - I no so believe am.

Later

[Meticulous]

Uwaa Sef, thnx for explaining.

Believe you me, I am learning it from reading how others write it, mostly on the web and through the help of a friend. I am afraid my verbal skills at pidgin is limited and it is quite embarassing to speak and have people laugh at you. I am learning it slowly though!

Nigerian women in America must always put in mind that African society was not built on how much individuals have, but if one likes the person they see in terms of relationships with sincere attitudes. I strongly believe that, materializations are denying Nigerian women from existing properly, therefore, if Nigerian women in Diaspora can distaste most of the materialistic demand, this would be first step toward their future engagements.


The next step is to stop being shy in approaching a Nigerian or African that they wish to be in relationship with in Diaspora. As well, travel home (Africa) and start searching for Mr. Right-cautiously just as most Nigerian men do go home to look for their soul mates, as such Nigerian women must not only hope of finding one among good Nigerians or Africans in Diaspora but also at home (Africa). Nigerian women cannot continue to hang around for Mr. Right, at 30s, 40s, 50s or even 60s? Do something! I rest my observations!

These old threads are so much more fun than the empty shells that have been popping up lately.

Only a mallam can write such a thing for sure. You have materialistic Nigerian women in the Diaspora? More than in Nigeria too or any other culture or society? And Nigerian men are not hanging around in their 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, and 70s". Sure most of them have been married like 3 or 4 times and are still single.......so was it materialism that caused them their marriages and everlasting bachelorhood?