Why Some Eligible Men Never Marry

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Why Some Eligible Men Never Marry

From the Editors at Netscape

Most men are not afraid of marriage. They're afraid of a bad marriage--so much so that they never make that ultimate commitment and say "I do."

That's the word from Carl Weisman, author of "So Why Have You Never Been Married? Ten Insights Into Why He Hasn't Wed." The lifelong bachelor, who says he got tired of being labeled a playboy or a loser, wrote the book at age 49 to help women understand why some smart and successful men choose to remain single, as well as to help other bachelors understand why they're still not married--and not at all unhappy about that.

"Men are 10 times more scared of marrying the wrong person than of never getting married at all," Weisman told Reuters. "This is the first generation of people who have grown up with bad divorces. People assume there is something wrong if you don't marry, but these are men who have made a different choice and not given in to social pressures."

There is perhaps less social or religious pressure now for people to marry than at any other time in history, and men are taking advantage of that. In 1980, just 6 percent of men who had reached their early 40s had never married, compared with 17 percent today.

Weisman based much of the information in his book on the results of a survey he conducted with 1,533 heterosexual men. He learned there are three groups of bachelors:

Those who are sure they never want to marry: 8 percent

Those who do want to marry: 31 percent

Those who want to marry, but won't settle for anything less than perfection: 31 percent

Those who aren't sure if they want to marry: 30 percent
Nearly three-fourths of these men insist they are not afraid of marriage. They are, however, very much afraid of marrying the wrong woman. "It's so important to these men to get it right," Weisman told Reuters. "My best advice to single women after bachelors is to be patient. If you're in a hurry to get married, you'll be frustrated."
For some, money is a major reason why men won't commit to marriage. "Those with little money said they would have nothing to offer a partner, with some suffering self-esteem issues and withdrawing from the dating pool," Weisman explained to Reuters. "While those who are financially sound were terrified what a bad divorce could do to them."

The takeaway: Single men are not unhappy. Most have found great contentment in being a bachelor, creating lives that are full with careers, friends and ambition.

--From the Editors at Netscape

[Hazard]

Don't mind de agbaya dem.

They eat-up and destroy anything on skirt including underage and some foolish married women before they settle down to marry. Because karma must always take its course, they end up having childless and unhappy marriage.

Thank God that statistics came from Obodo Oyinbo - known inventors of:
· Same sex marriage
· Making love to and married to animal
· Refusal to marry whilst chopping the thing,
· Blunt refusal to born (even one) whilst married
· Exchanging their wifes or husbands for sex and so many stupid things

Agreed that several challenges exist in finding girls with pre-requisite for marriage. But with the Fear of God, Prayers, self-examination and shining your eyes well, you could still find the best.

In Naija, ego (money) – a very important ingredient for marriage is the major reason for running away from marriage.

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Originally Posted by Hazard

Don't mind de agbaya dem.

They eat-up and destroy anything on skirt including underage and some foolish married women before they settle down to marry. Because karma must always take its course, they end up having childless and unhappy marriage.

Thank God that statistics came from Obodo Oyinbo - known inventors of:
· Same sex marriage
· Making love to and married to animal
· Refusal to marry whilst chopping the thing,
· Blunt refusal to born (even one) whilst married
· Exchanging their wifes or husbands for sex and so many stupid things

Agreed that several challenges exist in finding girls with pre-requisite for marriage. But with the Fear of God, Prayers, self-examination and shining your eyes well, you could still find the best.

In Naija, ego (money) – a very important ingredient for marriage is the major reason for running away from marriage.

Hmmm....da bolded is very hazardous o...but sha na wetin be my own...na man make this comment

As to why some eligible men never marry...they are afraid of commitment...and some just love their mum's cooking...hence failure to launch(grab ur copy of that movie)



PS>>....even as i write..some are just so scared sh.i.tless of women(afraid is cash/catch dem)

Because marriage is not compulsory for all and they are smart enough to realize what makes them happy.

The takeaway: Single men are not unhappy. Most have found great contentment in being a bachelor, creating lives that are full with careers, friends and ambition.

Exactly. Just have a 'steady' that's all.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worl...ts-affair.html

South Carolina governor Mark Sanford who went missing admits affair
Mark Sanford, the Governor of South Carolina, has admitted he has had an affair after going missing for a week.



Gov Sanford, a Republican who had been seen as a potential candidate for the 2012 US presidential election, was in tears during a press conference when he announced that he had had an eight-year affair and would be stepping down as head of the Republican Governor's Association.

It was his first appearance since disappearing and being out of contact with staff, family and friends since last week. His staff had said he was hiking on the Appalachian Trail but Gov Sanford said on Wednesday he had been in Argentina, where he had a "dear friend" with whom he had "developed a relationship".

Gov Sanford apologised to his wife, to whom he had been unfaithful, and staff and said he had met the woman about eight years ago. The relationship had become romantic about a year ago, he said, while his wife Jenny had known about it for the past five months.

"I met this person a little over eight years ago, very innocently .... What I did was wrong. Period. End of story," he said.

"I'm going to resign as chairman of the Republican Governors' Association."

When media reported that his whereabouts were unknown since last Thursday and that even his wife did not know where he was, his aides had said he had gone away for a break after a tough state legislative session.

During his absence, some South Carolina politicians accused him of abdicating responsibility.

Gov Sanford flew back from Argentina to Atlanta early on Wednesday. He told a reporter for The State, South Carolina's biggest newspaper, that he had changed his earlier plans for a trip and had decided at the last minute to go to Argentina and drive along its coastline.

Better than disappearing into the "bushes" for a few days without the wife and children to 'meditate' once in a while.

[Hazard]

Originally Posted by Simbili

Because marriage is not compulsory for all and they are smart enough to realize what makes them happy.

Exactly. Just have a 'steady' that's all.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worl...ts-affair.html

Better than disappearing into the "bushes" for a few days without the wife and children to 'meditate' once in a while.

Na True, Marriage no bi compulsory, but chopping da thing whilst not married is not humane.
Marry and chop or Don't marry and don't chop at all
But wait O! I don't think bachellors are actually happy unmarried. The headache is how to get girls with marriage materials and the ego to cushion the commitment/responsibilities that comes with it.
If an intending husband gets it right the first time by following the right roadmap to marriage, disappearing into the "bushes" for a few days without the wife and children to 'meditate' once in a while will not happen. Rather, squabbles in the marriage will be maturely handled.