You go talk?

Ajanlekoko · Aug 20, 2009 , 11:45 PM

Ok my people. I no know whether this one belong here or whether na palava hut. I get one question, if you saw a dude you know making out with a person you believe used to be a guy, would you tell him? And also, how would you go about it without LNKYD (laugh not killing you die)? I saw a soccer acquaintance at the club last Saturday night making out with this ex-dude, and eewwwww, it was disgusting. They actually were kissing and I knew the ex-dude looked familiar so I went and did some ifimu finle (reconnaisance - excuse me, i used to work for Idiagbon) only to confirm my insinuations (man, i sabi grammar o). So I called my 'friend' and tried to tell him, but hmmmm.........LWKMD. So I thought that this is actually not my business - I hate busy bodies. He will sooner or later find out. But am I being unfair by not telling him?

Aug 21, 2009 , 12:47 AM

I would stay out of this, if I were you. This is the 21st century......not much to "ewwwwwwwwww" about really...unless you are living in a cave.

From the look of things, it appears you are the one who does not really know this "friend" of yours. I am suspecting you kpa kpa.

Ajanlekoko · Aug 21, 2009 , 04:47 AM

Originally Posted by Wizzy

I am suspecting you kpa kpa.

Tufiakwa, God no gree.

ISL · Aug 21, 2009 , 05:50 PM

I hear Double Wahala is an expert on these issues.....

person · Aug 21, 2009 , 11:22 PM

Maybe your friend was aware that the 'woman' he was kissing was a 'former' dude.

I think you need to find yourself a new friend before he starts kissing you too.

MsWoman · Aug 21, 2009 , 11:38 PM

I agree with everyone. Besides, you may be the one to perpetuate murder oh! Make you jus leave am and when he does find out and tells you about it, just don't go and say something like: "Ehn I knew but was afraid to tell you!" You may be the first to go (as in be killed) by this your friend! I know many guys who will send you to heaven for not having spilled the beans on time.

No lie! May his soul rest in peace! I knew a gay guy who used to dress like a woman and according to him, he had dated some Naija guys who even after finding out he was a guy, were still very interested and didn't mind continuing the relationship............

He had a nice collection of fine handbags and many he said, were purchased by his Naija "men-friends!"

liloldlady · Aug 22, 2009 , 08:23 PM

Originally Posted by ISL

I hear Double Wahala is an expert on these issues.....

esikey · Aug 22, 2009 , 11:14 PM

So the HE became a SHE and started Kissing another HE

meanwhile the HE being kissed doesnt know the SHE used to be a HE.

I think you need to decide O. Cuz, if he later finds out and knows you knew about it...another wahala don drop o.

3 steps to choose from -

1) Wish them the best of LUCK

2) Send an anonymous text to your friend suggesting he has a proper chat with the SHE who was formerly a HE

3) Invite them out for dinner..if they are happy together, try and talk to the SHE and tell HER you know SHE used to be a HE, and see what happens.

Hazard · Aug 25, 2009 , 05:53 AM

Originally Posted by ISL

I hear Double Wahala is an expert on these issues.....

As una de find trouble so, una go get double O!

Bev_lyn · Aug 25, 2009 , 02:44 PM

Originally Posted by person

Maybe your friend was aware that the 'woman' he was kissing was a 'former' dude.

I think you need to find yourself a new friend before he starts kissing you too.

Damn right...will kiss you too...then you can't talk

liloldlady · Aug 25, 2009 , 02:48 PM

See trouble....anoda pesin get headache, anoda pesin dey drink phensic.

Pesin don get sex change....which wan amebo, wan lose sleep ova matter wey no konsine am.
Na waaa for village mentality.

shinycoin · Aug 27, 2009 , 05:28 AM

my friend, i suggest you mind ya business and put eyes in ya own relationship o!!

Ajanlekoko · Aug 28, 2009 , 09:35 PM

I don hear all of una but kai why all these harsh words now. that is why we have this forum make we dey seek advice. i go mind my business and when/if he finds out (assuming he doesn't know already), i go just feign ignorance. thanx everyone.

Anike · Sep 19, 2009 , 06:57 AM

If I were the 'friend', that is assuming that I don't already know, I would want you to tell me. It will be wicked of you not to. I might bite your head off, depending on how close* we are and how I percieve your intentions, but I will rather be in the know. If the tables were turned, would you want him to tell you? I am curious because it is kind of interesting to read that the general consensus here is that you not tell the 'friend', so I am not sure if it is because you classified him is an acquaintance or if this rule would apply to friends as well. Do you think your 'friend' really does not know? And if he doesn't, do you think he'd be upset if you let him know? And even if he will, do you think he'd rather know? Do you think telling him will stop him from carrying on with the woman? *If he is really just an acquaintance, you should leave things be if you are having doubts about it?