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Originally Posted by Nwanyi Oma  oga Auspy + Suspy (abi how many u be sef?)..so since all this while u still dey live 4 dream land? abi u no no say sis Oluwato don catch a bigger and far better fish than d 1st one wey she go mistakenly land... no just waste u time o! but joining ur local FMMC or is it MFM or whatever church will be of good benefit 2 ur soul.. who knows ur miracle might just be manifested! NnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnooooooooOOOOoooOOOOOOo! I will tear my shat, I will tear my trasa, I will tear my paheint! Na lie...noooooo, I don't believe it! I want her for me! ME! MEE!!! NnnnnnnnnnnOOOOOoooooooOOOOOoooooOOOOooooooo! SOMEBODY STOP MEEEE! Auspicious.
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Originally Posted by Oluwato What desirable qualities?
Gosh....you are so concrete......I was just being sarcastic. 
Seriously....I can deal with the "lying" aspect, since I have a good antenna for fishing out emotional scam artistes. The greatest obstacle to meeting anyone at this stage in life...is the other component...being babies in adult bodies.....I really CANNOT start allover again to teach an old dog new tricks.....many guys are so immature. At this stage...I am looking for who will pamper me silly.....NOT the other way round. Just cannot start all over again. So...with one meeting it is easy to figure out the most basic things......Not an option....DON'T CALL BACK!  Even after real life meeting... the skill is knowing how to tell the difference between their dreams and their realities. I HAVE met some NVS men... I just refuse to settle for "less" like I did in my first marriage. To each his own!
I agree.....at this stage in life....it would be quite impossible to meet your needs. Not because you are too picky, .....but because you have a most definite sense of self and know the consequences of lame compromises. Furthermore, with the infinite wisdom that comes with past experiences, the out come of whatever relationship you choose to embark upon can easily be measured with the blessing of intuition. The hand-writing is always on the wall....and your instincts are ever so sharpened.
Same goes here....having received the best I could possibly ever receive......I really do not see it getting better than it already is....so there is really no point in looking. That does not mean I cannot make new friends....but I have learned to set boundaries while protecting all I have.....that is gooooooooooooood... Keep dreaming, you were never in the market to begin with...  this whatever you call it between you and your husband is not my type of marriage... what market are you off? You're not even close .
ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
The glass is half empty theorist huh? Ask me all that when I celebrate my 25th wedding anniversary. The most important thing is that when someone loves/NEEDS you.....and vice versa....the rest is workable. YOU MUST HAVE SOMETHING TO OFFER IN ANY RELATIONSHIP TO MAKE YOU INDISPENSIBLE. ...I know what I have to give.....and is toooooooooooo much.... Only a very stupid man would burn such bridges....and vice versa....So in some cases...divorce becomes an absolute waste of time...especially when you can have it ALL.....without stress....
As long as that certificate is valid in the 50 states of the US and Edo/Delta areas of Nigeria....nothing else matters. It is the finishing that matters..... not the content.
Look at the bright side:
I will ALWAYS have someone to take me to the hospital and feed me when I am sick(hopefully not anti-freeze)
I will ALWAYS have someone to cook for me and take care of my kids.....
I will ALWAYS have someone to say.....hello baby.....how bodi?....you face 'twist' one kind today...kilo happs?(he knows I need money to go visit one of my boyfriends)
I will ALWAYS have someone to fight with and make up with....
I will ALWAYS have someone to say.....hello honey.....you look great tonight......MOMMY....what would I have done without you in this world?....My reply......always the same....NOTHING DARLING....ABSOLUTELY NOTHING....DADDYL
I will ALWAYS have someone to say......abeg carry that nyansh come here, no matter how stale.....
Not the kind you rent online or on NVS! ......A steady hand and a rock of all ages that is always sooooooooooooo reliable and is ALWAYS there...no matter what you do...because of one thing....LOVE.....I can manage ALL other imperfections darling. I may be stupid....but my stupidity has some definite limitations...
NO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE? Always a winner then...everything else...piece of cake.
Always a work in progress....till the final end....or till God says otherwise. My parents survived.....and in the same tradition.....we will.
Off to work jare! Thank God for a stress free life.... 
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Originally Posted by Babine Gosh....you are so concrete......I was just being sarcastic.
Good to know. I don't know you that well, I didn't want to assume wrongly. Originally Posted by Babine Seriously....I can deal with the "lying" aspect, since I have a good antenna for fishing out emotional scam artistes. The greatest obstacle to meeting anyone at this stage in life...is the other component... being babies in adult bodies..... I really CANNOT start allover again to teach an old dog new tricks..... many guys are so immature. At this stage...I am looking for who will pamper me silly.....NOT the other way round. Just cannot start all over again. So...with one meeting it is easy to figure out the most basic things......Not an option....DON'T CALL BACK!
That's why you're Babine and I'm Oluwato... I let Oluwa (Lord) to (be sufficient, be enough, be strong). Our different belief/faith systems decide our assessments of our capabilities. Originally Posted by Babine I agree.....a t this stage in life....it would be quite impossible to meet your needs. Not because you are too picky, ..... but because you have a most definite sense of self and know the consequences of lame compromises. Furthermore, with the infinite wisdom that comes with past experiences, the out come of whatever relationship you choose to embark upon can easily be measured with the blessing of intuition. The hand-writing is always on the wall....and your instincts are ever so sharpened.
That IS the blessing, not the curse. With knowledge comes empowerment! I got into the first one because of ignorance which led into deception. I'm glad I now know so I can glow! It's not impossible, with MY GOD - Adonai, all things ARE possible, it's really empowering, I'm actually enjoying the experience  . Originally Posted by Babine Same goes here.... having received the best I could possibly ever receive......I really do not see it getting better than it already is....so there is really no point in looking. That does not mean I cannot make new friends....but I have learned to set boundaries while protecting all I have.
That is your belief/faith... Mine is different. For me, the best is yet to come. Originally Posted by Babine ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
The glass is half empty theorist huh? Ask me all that when I celebrate my 25th wedding anniversary. The most important thing is that when someone loves/NEEDS you.....and vice versa....the rest is workable.
The glass is half empty of what? Whatever the fluid in the glass, whether you prefer empty or full, the fact is there is only 50% (sorry you're talking to an epidemiologist). Keep dreaming, love and need is relative, you just displayed it here  . Originally Posted by Babine YOU MUST HAVE SOMETHING TO OFFER IN ANY RELATIONSHIP TO MAKE YOU INDISPENSIBLE. ...I know what I have to give.....and is toooooooooooo much.... Only a very stupid man would burn such bridges....and vice versa....So in some cases... divorce becomes an absolute waste of time... especially when you can have it ALL.....without stress....
Everybody HAS something to offer in a relationship, God designed it that way... "what" that is however is relative. You and your husband "agree" (I hope) on your type of marital union (close to open marriage or serial adultery, whatever you call it) where you hold a monogamous marriage license and you're both free to sleep with other people secretly...that to me is absurd and it will never happen. Originally Posted by Babine As long as that certificate is valid in the 50 states of the US and Edo/Delta areas of Nigeria.... nothing else matters. It is the finishing that matters.....not the content.
We disagree. Again, different belief systems! Originally Posted by Babine Look at the bright side:
I will ALWAYS have someone to take me to the hospital and feed me when I am sick(hopefully not anti-freeze)
I will ALWAYS have someone to cook for me and take care of my kids.....
I will ALWAYS have someone to say.....hello baby.....how bodi....
I will ALWAYS have someone to fight with and make up with....
I will ALWAYS have someone to say.....hello honey.....you look great tonight......what would I have done without you in this world?
I will ALWAYS have someone to say......abeg carry that nyansh come here, no matter how stale.....
That's dull brightness. With a high risk of STDs from the escapades you both have the length of "togetherness" is stiffed. You could very well add that you will always have someone to transmit STI/STD to you and you to them! Most importantly, God's word, the Bible denounces such terms of unions! Originally Posted by Babine Not the kind you rent online or on NVS! ......A steady hand and a rock of all ages that is always sooooooooooooo reliable and is ALWAYS there...no matter what you do...because of one thing....LOVE.....I can manage ALL other imperfections darling.
I don't do renting at all. But hey, to each his/her own, enjoy! Originally Posted by Babine NO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE? Always a winner then...everything else...piece of cake.
That's arguable. I consider serial adultery, polygyny, open marriage and the likes a form of domestic violence. Your children ARE watching and learning from you and some of them WILL follow your steps! Originally Posted by Babine Always a work in progress....till the final end....or till God says otherwise. My parents survived..... and in the same tradition.....we will.
Thanks for re-iterating my point above, you're just reliving the dysfunction you learnt in your youth.
Shalom!
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God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say thank you?
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Originally Posted by Nwanyi Oma oga Auspy + Suspy (abi how many u be sef?)..so since all this while u still dey live 4 dream land? abi u no no say sis Oluwato don catch a bigger and far better fish than d 1st one wey she go mistakenly land... no just waste u time o! but joining ur local FMMC or is it MFM or whatever church will be of good benefit 2 ur soul.. who knows ur miracle might just be manifested!
Told them! One day I'll be free of the "obsession" .
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If God says yes, and you say no, you have disagreed with God and have made yourself, "God" - Oluwato
Everything is by the law of sowing and reaping - Terry Mize
I keep six honest men. They taught me all I knew. Their names are What, Why, When, How, Where and Who - Rudyard Kipling
Without faith (trusting God), it is impossible to please God - Apostle Paul
Everybody is ignorant, just on different subjects - Will Rogers
Elohim made Adam (humans) in His image, in His image He created him, male (zakhar) and female (neqeba) he created them - B'resheet (Genesis) 1:27
"...without TRUTH, education is moved to the skeptical, spirituality is moved to the mystical, and art is moved to the sensual." - Ravi Zacharias
I am the Way, the Truth and the Life - Jesus Christ
I am Adonai's righteousness in Yeshua HaMashiach (Jesus the Messiah) - Oluwato [based on 2 Corinthians 5:21]
God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say thank you?
Baruch atta Adonai Eloheinu Melech ha'olam todah rabbah - Blessed are You O Lord our God King of the universe, thank You very much.
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There are many characters on NVS, a few of them just need straight jackets. Kai, wonders will never end..
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Gosh...I could not resist......since I have 15 minutes to kill...let me indulge this thread with one more response. I will make this brief. Originally Posted by Oluwato Good to know. I don't know you that well, I didn't want to assume wrongly.
That's why you're Babine and I'm Oluwato... I let Oluwa (Lord) to (be sufficient, be enough, be strong). Our different belief/faith systems decide our assessments of our capabilities.
I am not here to restate the obvious but to exchange views. No conversions necessary. No competition either. That IS the blessing, not the curse. With knowledge comes empowerment! I got into the first one because of ignorance which led into deception. I'm glad I now know so I can glow! It's not impossible, with MY GOD - Adonai, all things ARE possible, it's really empowering, I'm actually enjoying the experience .
Great....and I am loving you for it.....More power from "Adonai"! That is your belief/faith... Mine is different. For me, the best is yet to come.
Amen....seek and ye shall definitely receive. I already got my "bestest".....so enjoy the search. The glass is half empty of what? Whatever the fluid in the glass, whether you prefer empty or full, the fact is there is only 50% (sorry you're talking to an epidemiologist). Keep dreaming, love and need is relative, you just displayed it here .
I don't have any rashes yet...when I grow some genital warts....I would give you a call. Everybody HAS something to offer in a relationship, God designed it that way... "what" that is however is relative. You and your husband "agree" (I hope) on your type of marital union (close to open marriage or serial adultery, whatever you call it) where you hold a monogamous marriage license and you're both free to sleep with other people secretly...that to me is absurd and it will never happen.
I wish you would not make this personal....it bores me. We are here to share...not to judge. We disagree. Again, different belief systems!
That's dull brightness. With a high risk of STDs from the escapades you both have the length of "togetherness" is stiffed. You could very well add that you will always have someone to transmit STI/STD to you and you to them! Most importantly, God's word, the Bible denounces such terms of unions!
See you when you have the next interesting topic....  I don't do renting at all. But hey, to each his/her own, enjoy!
That's arguable. I consider serial adultery, polygyny, open marriage and the likes a form of domestic violence. Your children ARE watching and learning from you and some of them WILL follow your steps!
Thanks for re-iterating my point above, you're just reliving the dysfunction you learnt in your youth.
Shalom!
Next sex topic please...or back to topic.....time to go make some money.
I beg....has anyone seen my "Balo".....time to have some fun at last. 
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Originally Posted by Babine Gosh...I could not resist......since I have 15 minutes to kill...let me indulge this thread with one more response. I will make this brief.
I am not here to restate the obvious but to exchange views. No conversions necessary. No competition either.
We agree there. Originally Posted by Babine Great....and I am loving you for it.....More power from "Adonai"!
Thanks. Originally Posted by Babine Amen....seek and ye shall definitely receive. I already got my "bestest".....so enjoy the search.
Thanks again. Originally Posted by Babine I don't have any rashes yet...when I grow some genital warts....I would give you a call.
Don't bother, I'm a health educator not a doctor! Originally Posted by Babine I wish you would not make this personal....it bores me. We are here to share...not to judge.
You started the comparisons, just going with the flow, also "judgmental" is a relative term.
Cheers.
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Everything is by the law of sowing and reaping - Terry Mize
I keep six honest men. They taught me all I knew. Their names are What, Why, When, How, Where and Who - Rudyard Kipling
Without faith (trusting God), it is impossible to please God - Apostle Paul
Everybody is ignorant, just on different subjects - Will Rogers
Elohim made Adam (humans) in His image, in His image He created him, male (zakhar) and female (neqeba) he created them - B'resheet (Genesis) 1:27
"...without TRUTH, education is moved to the skeptical, spirituality is moved to the mystical, and art is moved to the sensual." - Ravi Zacharias
I am the Way, the Truth and the Life - Jesus Christ
I am Adonai's righteousness in Yeshua HaMashiach (Jesus the Messiah) - Oluwato [based on 2 Corinthians 5:21]
God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say thank you?
Baruch atta Adonai Eloheinu Melech ha'olam todah rabbah - Blessed are You O Lord our God King of the universe, thank You very much.
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Excerpts From Rachel Greenwald's Book: Why He Didn't Call You Back
REASON HE DIDN'T CALL BACK
THE EX FACTOR
I was genuinely curious why she got divorced, so I wanted to hear about her ex-husband. The problem was how bitter she sounded......not exactly an aphrodisiac. ---Pete, age 39, Boston MA @ Page 150
She told me her ex--- cheated on her..... At first I was sympathetic, but then I started thinking, "if that guy risked losing a girl like this, there must be something wrong with her that I haven't seen yet....."
-----Jasper, age 30, Philadephia, PA @ Page 150
She was droning on and on about her last relationship......it took up too much of the conversation. I was bored, and frankly I just didn't care. -----Saul, age 61, Palm Springs CA @ Page 150
Dick, a sixty-four-year-old lawyer in Washington, DC, made this analogy: "Dating a bitter woman coming out of a divorce is like interviewing someone who won't stop b.i.t.c.h.i.n.g about her last job. No thanks" @ Page 151
Look, ex-boyfriends and ex-husbands are a big part of your psychological makeup. And you'll get to talk about them as much as you want eventually. But zip it for the first date or two. Don't let your past mess up your future. @ Page 162
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Originally Posted by Vade Mecum Excerpts From Rachel Greenwald's Book: Why He Didn't Call You Back
REASON HE DIDN'T CALL BACK
THE EX FACTOR
I was genuinely curious why she got divorced, so I wanted to hear about her ex-husband. The problem was how bitter she sounded......not exactly an aphrodisiac. ---Pete, age 39, Boston MA @ Page 150
She told me her ex--- cheated on her..... At first I was sympathetic, but then I started thinking, "if that guy risked losing a girl like this, there must be something wrong with her that I haven't seen yet....."
-----Jasper, age 30, Philadephia, PA @ Page 150
She was droning on and on about her last relationship......it took up too much of the conversation. I was bored, and frankly I just didn't care.
-----Saul, age 61, Palm Springs CA @ Page 150
Dick, a sixty-four-year-old lawyer in Washington, DC, made this analogy: "Dating a bitter woman coming out of a divorce is like interviewing someone who won't stop b.i.t.c.h.i.n.g about her last job. No thanks" @ Page 151
This should have been a thread by itself... in the woman-woman section, it's kinda lost here .
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If God says yes, and you say no, you have disagreed with God and have made yourself, "God" - Oluwato
Everything is by the law of sowing and reaping - Terry Mize
I keep six honest men. They taught me all I knew. Their names are What, Why, When, How, Where and Who - Rudyard Kipling
Without faith (trusting God), it is impossible to please God - Apostle Paul
Everybody is ignorant, just on different subjects - Will Rogers
Elohim made Adam (humans) in His image, in His image He created him, male (zakhar) and female (neqeba) he created them - B'resheet (Genesis) 1:27
"...without TRUTH, education is moved to the skeptical, spirituality is moved to the mystical, and art is moved to the sensual." - Ravi Zacharias
I am the Way, the Truth and the Life - Jesus Christ
I am Adonai's righteousness in Yeshua HaMashiach (Jesus the Messiah) - Oluwato [based on 2 Corinthians 5:21]
God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say thank you?
Baruch atta Adonai Eloheinu Melech ha'olam todah rabbah - Blessed are You O Lord our God King of the universe, thank You very much.
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Originally Posted by Oluwato
This should have been a thread by itself... in the woman-woman section, it's kinda lost here .
I thought about that.
Then, I decided that it would be cool to just deal with all the issues on this thread.
Oluwato,
I have observed that you are very comfortable talking about your ex, openly on this board.
Let me quickly inform you that I do not agree with you on virtually every issue concerning your ex. (I mean the issues, you have hinted on, so far on this board)
I would love to help you find and bring a completion to this issue
I have some questions for you, regarding your ex.
Do I have the green light from you, to roll out my polite and friendly questions ?
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Originally Posted by Vade Mecum I thought about that.
Then, I decided that it would be cool to just deal with all the issues on this thread.
Fine with me, t'was just a suggestion. Originally Posted by Vade Mecum Oluwato,
I have observed that you are very comfortable talking about your ex, openly on this board.
Depends, I am only comfortable talking about the following regarding my ex - he was the only man I was married to and ever had sex with, he is the biological father to my sons, the marriage was over five years and it was long-distance, he committed adultery and was (still is) worse than an infidel (he was not a good father while we were married and is even a worse one after the divorce, he isn't paying child support yet) and he has not spoken my apology language. Originally Posted by Vade Mecum Let me quickly inform you that I do not agree with you on virtually every issue concerning your ex. (I mean the issues, you have hinted on, so far on this board)
You don't have to. I truly don't care whether you do or not. Originally Posted by Vade Mecum I would love to help you find and bring a completion to this issue
Thanks for the offer but the only uncompleted thing with my ex and I is child support. So if you're offering (if you know him and you can influence him to pay child support then PM me). Originally Posted by Vade Mecum I have some questions for you, regarding your ex.
Only if it relates to you assisting in getting me child support. Any other questions will have to be answered by him, I'm not his mouthpiece. Originally Posted by Vade Mecum Do I have the green light from you, to roll out my polite and friendly questions ?
Check my terms above. Shalom!
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If God says yes, and you say no, you have disagreed with God and have made yourself, "God" - Oluwato
Everything is by the law of sowing and reaping - Terry Mize
I keep six honest men. They taught me all I knew. Their names are What, Why, When, How, Where and Who - Rudyard Kipling
Without faith (trusting God), it is impossible to please God - Apostle Paul
Everybody is ignorant, just on different subjects - Will Rogers
Elohim made Adam (humans) in His image, in His image He created him, male (zakhar) and female (neqeba) he created them - B'resheet (Genesis) 1:27
"...without TRUTH, education is moved to the skeptical, spirituality is moved to the mystical, and art is moved to the sensual." - Ravi Zacharias
I am the Way, the Truth and the Life - Jesus Christ
I am Adonai's righteousness in Yeshua HaMashiach (Jesus the Messiah) - Oluwato [based on 2 Corinthians 5:21]
God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say thank you?
Baruch atta Adonai Eloheinu Melech ha'olam todah rabbah - Blessed are You O Lord our God King of the universe, thank You very much.
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Originally Posted by Vade Mecum I thought about that.
Then, I decided that it would be cool to just deal with all the issues on this thread.
Oluwato,
I have observed that you are very comfortable talking about your ex, openly on this board.
Let me quickly inform you that I do not agree with you on virtually every issue concerning your ex. (I mean the issues, you have hinted on, so far on this board)
I would love to help you find and bring a completion to this issue
I have some questions for you, regarding your ex.
Do I have the green light from you, to roll out my polite and friendly questions ?
Di woman don fashi him philandering arse, whish kine issue remain to complete?
Oluwato dey do wetin dem dey call 'closure- by- rupidiation'. Him dey rupidiate the man and all him stand for. when di time come, no worry, she go forget am including him name kpa kpa.
Healing is a process and hopefully she is going through hers.
BTW...Decree Nisi don don grow bia bia, sotay him don become decree absolute.
Since nineteen keredim. nating to bring to completion
I love that word completion....evokes fond memories.
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Lord help us all, especially those dealing with unresolved issues /pain.
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Originally Posted by liloldlady Di woman don fashi him philandering arse, whish kine issue remain to complete?
Decree Nisi don don grow bia bia, sotay him don become decree absolute.
Since nineteen keredim.
Whatever that means but it sure was funny .
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Everything is by the law of sowing and reaping - Terry Mize
I keep six honest men. They taught me all I knew. Their names are What, Why, When, How, Where and Who - Rudyard Kipling
Without faith (trusting God), it is impossible to please God - Apostle Paul
Everybody is ignorant, just on different subjects - Will Rogers
Elohim made Adam (humans) in His image, in His image He created him, male (zakhar) and female (neqeba) he created them - B'resheet (Genesis) 1:27
"...without TRUTH, education is moved to the skeptical, spirituality is moved to the mystical, and art is moved to the sensual." - Ravi Zacharias
I am the Way, the Truth and the Life - Jesus Christ
I am Adonai's righteousness in Yeshua HaMashiach (Jesus the Messiah) - Oluwato [based on 2 Corinthians 5:21]
God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say thank you?
Baruch atta Adonai Eloheinu Melech ha'olam todah rabbah - Blessed are You O Lord our God King of the universe, thank You very much.
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| | | Sep 16, 2009
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| Re: OK peeps...folks are about to re-invent the wheel. Listen up!!!
Originally Posted by Oluwato Whatever that means but it sure was funny .
I see you are not bi-lingual...so dia4 I will translate Di woman don fashi him philandering arse, whish kine issue remain to complete?
Meaning
The woman is no longer with the unfaithful husband, what else is there to complete? Oluwato dey do wetin dem dey call 'closure- by- rupidiation'. Him dey rupidiate the man and all him stand for. when di time come, no worry, she go forget am including him name kpa kpa. meaning
Oluwato is getting emotional closure, by rupidiating a hitherto acknowledged person. And very soon, she will have come so far in her healing, She will be totally indifferent to his past antics. Healing is a process and hopefully she is going through hers.
The meaning is self evident BTW...Decree Nisi don grow bia bia, sotay him don become decree absolute.
Since nineteen keredim. nating to bring to completion
According to Wiki wiki wiki.... Decree nisi (non-absolute ruling) is a ruling by a court that does not have any force until such time that a particular condition is met. Once the condition is met the ruling becomes decree absolute and is binding. Typically, the condition is that no new evidence or further petitions with a bearing on the case are introduced to the court.
This form of ruling has become a rarity in recent times, with one exception— in some jurisdictions it is still a standard stage of Divorce meaning,
The Divorce is final...like they say at the airport...Nothing to declare. Full stop. I love that word completion....evokes fond memories.
Believe me.......You dont want me to translate dis wan. Oh no. You dont. trust me on this. I'm outta here.
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| Re: OK peeps...folks are about to re-invent the wheel. Listen up!!!
Originally Posted by liloldlady
Di woman don fashi him philandering arse, whish kine issue remain to complete?
Oluwato dey do wetin dem dey call 'closure- by- rupidiation'. Him dey rupidiate the man and all him stand for. when di time come, no worry, she go forget am including him name kpa kpa.
Healing is a process and hopefully she is going through hers.
BTW...Decree Nisi don don grow bia bia, sotay him don become decree absolute.
Since nineteen keredim. nating to bring to completion
I love that word completion....evokes fond memories.
Oluwato is a christian lady
Thus, the rules are different here
A christian must be ready to abide by God's standard
1 Corinthians 14:33
"For God is not a God of disorder but of peace "
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| | | Sep 16, 2009
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| Re: OK peeps...folks are about to re-invent the wheel. Listen up!!!
Originally Posted by liloldlady I see you are not bi-lingual...so dia4 I will translate
Meaning
The woman is no longer with the unfaithful husband, what else is there to complete? meaning
Oluwato is getting emotional closure, by rupidiating a hitherto acknowledged person. And very soon, she will have come so far in her healing, She will be totally indifferent to his past antics.
The meaning is self evident
According to Wiki wiki wiki.... Decree nisi (non-absolute ruling) is a ruling by a court that does not have any force until such time that a particular condition is met. Once the condition is met the ruling becomes decree absolute and is binding. Typically, the condition is that no new evidence or further petitions with a bearing on the case are introduced to the court.
This form of ruling has become a rarity in recent times, with one exception— in some jurisdictions it is still a standard stage of Divorce meaning,
The Divorce is final...like they say at the airport...Nothing to declare. Full stop.
Believe me.......You dont want me to translate dis wan. Oh no. You dont. trust me on this. I'm outta here.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! I learn everyday.
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If God says yes, and you say no, you have disagreed with God and have made yourself, "God" - Oluwato
Everything is by the law of sowing and reaping - Terry Mize
I keep six honest men. They taught me all I knew. Their names are What, Why, When, How, Where and Who - Rudyard Kipling
Without faith (trusting God), it is impossible to please God - Apostle Paul
Everybody is ignorant, just on different subjects - Will Rogers
Elohim made Adam (humans) in His image, in His image He created him, male (zakhar) and female (neqeba) he created them - B'resheet (Genesis) 1:27
"...without TRUTH, education is moved to the skeptical, spirituality is moved to the mystical, and art is moved to the sensual." - Ravi Zacharias
I am the Way, the Truth and the Life - Jesus Christ
I am Adonai's righteousness in Yeshua HaMashiach (Jesus the Messiah) - Oluwato [based on 2 Corinthians 5:21]
God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say thank you?
Baruch atta Adonai Eloheinu Melech ha'olam todah rabbah - Blessed are You O Lord our God King of the universe, thank You very much.
What you bow your knee to while you are climbing your mountain of life, is what will own you when you get to the top. - Lance Wallnau | |
| | | Sep 16, 2009
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| Re: OK peeps...folks are about to re-invent the wheel. Listen up!!!
Originally Posted by Vade Mecum Oluwato is a christian lady
Thus, the rules are different here
A christian must be ready to abide by God's standard
1 Corinthians 14:33
"For God is not a God of disorder but of peace "
What rules? Let's not make this thread Oluwato's divorce - I have written my terms up there, if you can abide by them, I'll expect the PM, if not, shalom!
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If God says yes, and you say no, you have disagreed with God and have made yourself, "God" - Oluwato
Everything is by the law of sowing and reaping - Terry Mize
I keep six honest men. They taught me all I knew. Their names are What, Why, When, How, Where and Who - Rudyard Kipling
Without faith (trusting God), it is impossible to please God - Apostle Paul
Everybody is ignorant, just on different subjects - Will Rogers
Elohim made Adam (humans) in His image, in His image He created him, male (zakhar) and female (neqeba) he created them - B'resheet (Genesis) 1:27
"...without TRUTH, education is moved to the skeptical, spirituality is moved to the mystical, and art is moved to the sensual." - Ravi Zacharias
I am the Way, the Truth and the Life - Jesus Christ
I am Adonai's righteousness in Yeshua HaMashiach (Jesus the Messiah) - Oluwato [based on 2 Corinthians 5:21]
God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say thank you?
Baruch atta Adonai Eloheinu Melech ha'olam todah rabbah - Blessed are You O Lord our God King of the universe, thank You very much.
What you bow your knee to while you are climbing your mountain of life, is what will own you when you get to the top. - Lance Wallnau | |
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| Re: Why she did not call you back
Originally Posted by Oluwato;388290
[QUOTE Depends, I am only comfortable talking about the following regarding my ex - he was the only man I was married to and ever had sex with, he is the biological father to my sons, the marriage was over five years and it was long-distance, he committed adultery and was (still is) worse than an infidel (he was not a good father while we were married and is even a worse one after the divorce, he isn't paying child support yet) and he has not spoken my apology language.
You will agree with me, that you have not mentioned any sin that your husband has committed that is beyond forgiveness ?
As a christian do you agree that we must always forgive ? You don't have to. I truly don't care whether you do or not.
I know that ordinarily you are a very polite and nice person. Thanks for the offer but the only uncompleted thing with my ex and I is child support. So if you're offering (if you know him and you can influence him to pay child support then PM me).
Do you have any idea, why your ex is not interested in paying child support ?
We are talking about his children here. His own blood.
Have you tried to see things from his own perspective ?
Have you tried to find out why he is so bitter with you and even decide to transfer that bitterness and punish his own children, by refusing to pay child support money, over issues the children know nothing about ? Only if it relates to you assisting in getting me child support. Any other questions will have to be answered by him, I'm not his mouthpiece.
You are not his mouth piece. Yes you are not
But then, you have prayed and fasted as a minister of God and God is not sleeping. Yet he has not blessed you with a new and improved man. There is definitely a reason, why God is not in a hurry to answer your prayers for a new and better man.
Yes God is not the author of confusion
Have you considered, whether God is telling you to go back to your husband. That he is not the author of confusion ?
As a Minister of God, don't you think you should go back to your husband and win him over to God first ?
Yes, your husband is not perfect. Are you aware that Apostle Paul had a thorn in the flesh and he prayed thrice for God to remove it, and God told him to live with it; that it was best for him to live with the 'thorn' 2 Corinthians 12: 9
God bless you
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