Why she did not call you back

[Oluwato]

Originally Posted by Vade Mecum

You will agree with me, that you have not mentioned any sin that your husband has committed that is beyond forgiveness ?

As a christian do you agree that we must always forgive ?





I know that ordinarily you are a very polite and nice person.



Do you have any idea, why your ex is not interested in paying child support ?

We are talking about his children here. His own blood.

Have you tried to see things from his own perspective ?

Have you tried to find out why he is so bitter with you and even decide to transfer that bitterness and punish his own children, by refusing to pay child support money, over issues the children know nothing about ?



You are not his mouth piece. Yes you are not

But then, you have prayed and fasted as a minister of God and God is not sleeping. Yet he has not blessed you with a new and improved man. There is definitely a reason, why God is not in a hurry to answer your prayers for a new and better man.

Yes God is not the author of confusion

Have you considered, whether God is telling you to go back to your husband. That he is not the author of confusion ?

As a Minister of God, don't you think you should go back to your husband and win him over to God first ?

Yes, your husband is not perfect. Are you aware that Apostle Paul had a thorn in the flesh and he prayed thrice for God to remove it, and God told him to live with it; that it was best for him to live with the 'thorn' 2 Corinthians 12: 9

God bless you

Let me borrow BeePee's words, I'm not buying what you're selling. God's timing for me to get marriage is His timing and I'll remarry WHO He wants me to marry in HIS time. Shalom!

[ISL]

lmao....dang!

[MrsChocT]

Originally Posted by ISL

lmao....dang!

Dats what I said too. I knew it getting hot in 'ere. TMI going around, only if some would spare of us the details......

BTW, why is Auspi getting infractions when there are serious atomic bombs in plain view on this thread? Wonders, wonders is all SNB's gotta say

[Babine]

he he he....Wey my post?

[MrsChocT]

Originally Posted by Babine

he he he....Wey my post?

Wizzy, Dewy, Babine, I loved the yellow, now where is it?

[Babine]

Originally Posted by Serious_Naijababe

Wizzy, Dewy, Babine, I loved the yellow, now where is it?

you mean the yellow infraction card?

[Vade Mecum]

Excerpts From Rachel Greenwald's Book: Why He Didn't Call You Back

REASON HE DIDN'T CALL BACK

THE BOSS LADY

It felt more like a business dinner than a date.---Carl, age 28, Philadelphia, PA @ Page 31


I get enough aggression at work all day. When I come home, I want to be with someone softer, more nurturing ---Jacob, age 31, New York, NY @ Page 31


Her attitude was like, "This is how it's going to be" instead of "This is what I am thinking but I'd like to hear your thoughts too."----Kiran, 52, Seattle, WA @ Page 31


The top reason that I heard from men about why they didn't call a woman back came down to one thing, dominant behaviour. Many men basically said the date failed because they'd rather hire her than date her. They may respect her intelligence and admire her capabilities, but that does not mean they're attracted to her. They weren't saying they wanted someone simple, needy, or uncomplicated, but they didn't want to feel tense, belittled, or neglected in their personal relationships. @ Page 31


The term "boss" here reflects men's attitudes that certain women seem argumentative, competitive, controlling, not feminine, too independent, not nurturing, or some combination of the above. In other words some women give off a masculine vibe. @ Page 31


The issue is not what you are or aren't at your core, but rather that trivial comments or actions are screening you out before he can really get to know and appreciate you. @ Page 33

[liloldlady]

Originally Posted by Babine

you mean the yellow infraction card?

Infraction ke....what for....unless stuff went down, whilst non-Northern Hemisphere folks got some shut eye.

Babine...if anybody bother you ehn, tell me, I go massacre am.
no warning, no notice, na total evisceration without mercy I go do am.

now wey dis board don dey be fun place again, naim pepu wan dabaru am? no way.

[Babine]

Originally Posted by liloldlady

Infraction ke....what for....unless stuff went down, whilst non-Northern Hemisphere folks got some shut eye.

Babine...if anybody bother you ehn, tell me, I go massacre am.
no warning, no notice, na total evisceration without mercy I go do am.

now wey dis board don dey be fun place again, naim pepu wan dabaru am? no way.

Thank you my dia...ah-ah? Person wan try to invigorate this dry village free of charge....and some people are typing rubbish...

Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrant nonsense.....Ahem...where wuz I?

Don't call him back...if:

1. He has short fingers....that means he most definitely suffers from "penile dwarfism"...."Thigh master" or "Kegel master" cannot save you from looking at the mail man....You might lose a few condoms in there if you try to sharpen his pencil....




2. If you can smell his mouth...armpits...or crotch(extremely gammy...like the muskiness of a wild goat) from across the table.....obviously, the dude is allergic to taking showers or colognes/aftershave....

3. If he takes of his shoes and you can smell his toes...arghhhhhhhhhhh...

4. If he is unemployed for any reason including "acts from God"....

5. If his exes are either dead or institutionalized in "Uselu", "Igbobi" Or "Aro"........you are most definitely going to be next.

[Iye]

Originally Posted by Babine

Thank you my dia...ah-ah? Person to try to invigorate this dry village and some people are typing rubbish...

Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrant nonsense.....Ahem...where wuz I?

Don't call him back...if:

1. He has short fingers....that means he most definitely suffers from "penile dwarfism"...."Thigh master" or "Kegel master" cannot save you from looking at the mail man....You might lose a few condoms in there if you try to sharpen his pencil....

2. If you can smell his mouth...armpits...or crotch(extremely gammy...like the muskiness of a wild goat) from across the table.....obviously, the dude is allergic to taking showers or colognes/aftershave....

3. If he takes of his shoes and you can smell his toes...arghhhhhhhhhhh...

4. If he is unemployed for any reason including "acts from God"....

5. If his exes are either dead or institutionalized in "Uselu", "Igbobi" Or "Aro"........you are most definitely going to be next.

Chai……my sister you hot ooooh…you must be a mind reader..…you hit the nail on the hammer abi…. na hammer on the head…….am on your side 100% on this one…

[Babine]

Originally Posted by Vade Mecum

Excerpts From Rachel Greenwald's Book: Why He Didn't Call You Back

REASON HE DIDN'T CALL BACK

THE BOSS LADY

It felt more like a business dinner than a date.---Carl, age 28, Philadelphia, PA @ Page 31


I get enough aggression at work all day. When I come home, I want to be with someone softer, more nurturing ---Jacob, age 31, New York, NY @ Page 31

Gooooooooooooood......don't call back abeg. When you go back home...someone has to put up with your own male aggression too. I want to be with a man softer...more nurturing too....I have enough aggression for us all....something like this.

Gentle lover.......Not a "Chaka De Zulu"....1-Minute man...agbero lover who does not know how to play with my "stuff"....

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[liloldlady]

I have always wondered why SOME men (a lot of them Africans.) believe that, unless they can wipe their filthy shoes on a wife/girlfriend's face, and she then smiles and thanks him, she will be considered bossy or unfeminine.
As an adult woman, I expect my mate to be an adult too.
Not some whinny, emotionally stunted, egotistic, unevolved, self indulgent, infantile non starter, who believes the purpose of my life on earth is to baby him, and wipe his snotty nose into the bargain.
And allow him get away with murder, so to speak.

I am not his mother, I am not here to build him some healthy self esteem or instill some self worth where its non existent. If his parents failed to do that.....And he is too dense to acquire some on his own, after all this time....Next Please.
He is too flawed for me.

The way some people are going with this thing, some girls will be too scared to marry, believing they are going to be saddled with some, navel gazing, hand wringing, emotional retard of a man, whose sense of self is so fragile that, standing up and being Adult, and taking responsibility for his own emotions and how he percieves things, will be too much for his fragile ego to handle.
Add to that the disasterous consequences, of some of them, using violence to assuage this very fragile and easily bruised ego.

I am not churcheyious(yeah I invent words)But on this occasion....Thank you lord, that the kind of men who are such damaged goods, they have to be handled with such degree of care, due to their emotional fragility, never crossed my path or me theirs.

[Babine]

Originally Posted by liloldlady

I have always wondered why SOME men (a lot of them Africans.) believe that, unless they can wipe their filthy shoes on a wife/girlfriend's face, and she then smiles and thanks him, she will be considered bossy or unfeminine.
As an adult woman, I expect my mate to be an adult too.

Not some whinny, emotionally stunted, egotistic, unevolved, self indulgent, infantile non starter, who believes the purpose of my life on earth is to baby him, and wipe his snotty nose into the bargain.
And allow him get away with murder, so to speak.

I am not his mother, I am not here to build him some healthy self esteem or instill some self worth where its non existent.

If his parents failed to do that.....And he is too dense to acquire some on his own, after all this time....Next Please.

He is too flawed for me.

The way some people are going with this thing, some girls will be too scared to marry, believing they are going to be saddled

with some, navel gazing, hand wringing, emotional retard of a man, whose sense of self is so fragile that, standing up and being Adult, and taking responsibility for his own emotions and how he percieves things, will be too much for his fragile ego to handle.

Add to that the disasterous consequences, of some of them, using violence to assuage this very fragile and easily bruised ego.

I am not churcheyious(yeah I invent words)But on this occasion....Thank you lord, that the kind of men who are such damaged goods, they have to be handled with such degree of care, due to their emotional fragility, never crossed my path or me theirs.

Tozaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!

Gun shot inna aire for you again...and again...and again...

The ye ye women nko?

Only violence? Some will now bring one kain Sharia-Christian doctrine to bamboozle stupid women who are too desparate to realize that our God is not a God of Impossibilities"......Having missed their own God's time which was really the very best....all they succeed in doing futuristically, is proving God right...they are meant to be single...for life!....

Gun shot inna aire for you again......the reason I get sooooooooon irritated with all these emotionally unstable peeps around here...YOU ATTRACT WHAT YOU ARE.....SIMPLE!!!! When you wait till 'old' cargo stage to get married.....then you compromise your standards to some douch bag who wants to give you terms and conditions.....like even where his manufacturer warrantee status has long run out.

Me a dey bossy well well oooooooooh....I have never had shortage of corrrrrrrrrrrrrect men...the yeye ones always find their levels......in gooooooood time.

No shaking...if you no want, abeg "give chance"......for betta fish for river jor.

The funny part is that most of this socio-economically handicapped men giving all these rules and regulations do not even haven anything to offer O!

Not even a good 'kpanshin'!

Then they will be compiling one yeye list of dos and don'ts.

Money, dem no get..
Fine...dem no fine......especially MOST of these African men with faces like "Java" in "Star Wars"!!!
Motor...dem no get...
Piriki kpa-kpa...not visible
Manners.....for where?
Home-training....whosai?
Work....lai lai...
Smell good nko?....for where....no deodorant...no after shave...no cologne...all smelling of 'alabokun and mentolatum' combined with sweat and grime.

Upon all...na you the woman go dey run around to force them to even look inside your underwear...forcing them to take free pussy ontop...he he he...wonders!

You see correct female medical doctors in their 40s and 50s running after truck-pushers....wey no 'break' chalk not to mention pencil or biro?....at least I did mine in my 20s and 30s...most definitely not in my 40s and 50s....God forbid...all to marry or shag a rattlesnake?

What a rip-off!...God forbid bad thing.

So what is all this shakara about?

he he he......some barrrri help me hia O!......I just cOnnOt understand this whole man-womann dating wahala O!

El shaddai O!....El shaddai O!

El shaddai O!.....you are my God.....

You are my God O! ....You are my God O!

I have no one but you EEE!.....You are my God

Onye werem! You are my God!

Onye werem! Onye werem! Onye werem!.....You are my God!



Agam abu Ife Chineke sin am ga bu ee


Agam a bu li li li........

Thank you FADAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!! For being abundantly able to send me lots of TIs...to finance my expensive habits.....not some broke arse.....ni***** that would give me terms and conditions of 'phockment'.....BE QUIET!!!!


Please in conclusion....if you are not able to do and perform plus sing me this song every morning, noon and night....please DON'T call me back.....I don't want you pissing off my financially/spiritually/emotionally/sexually virile sugar daddies....

YouTube - Whatever you like with lyrics - by T.I.

[Pooky]

I had this experience with this dude that will last in my memory when I am old. It was pretty much a blind date. We met at a restaurant. He sure wasn't coming to my house to pick me up. First I don't want him to know where I live. Second if he is a bad date I want to have my car so I can drive myself home.

Anyway, before we met. I specifically told him that I don't have any children and I did not want a man who had children. When we finally met, I did not like his looks. So there was no chemistry. However, I was raised right so I was willing to spend a few pleasant hours with him.

So he starts to tell me about himself. I was livid, but I kept my mask on so he would not know. This fool had three children and he was the custodial parent. So I kept my mask on because I had gotten dressed up and I was going to enjoy my dinner even though this guy was toast as far as I was concerned. Then he began to bore me about his problems. I am thinking man I don't give a fig about your problems. What woman in her right mind would want to take on such an Albatross (Burden). You ain't my friend. So I kept eating my food as he was going on and on about how he liked me.

I hate a liar, and the fact that he could act like everything was okay and I would not remember the fact that he told me he did not have any children. I finished my dinner and politely told him I needed to go to the ladies' room and went right out of the door and got into my car and went home.

There are so many chitty dudes out here. O yeah he was a Naija! This was during my African men phase. God I hate a liar.

I advise my younger female relatives to due a simply background check on dudes before you give them too much of time. You find out things like if he is married, does he have any felony convictions, where he really lives, etc. You should always get a man land line phone number. You really to need to know where he physically lives.

It is hard now. In the past, most folks dated and married folks from the same town or even the neighborhood. You could easily investigate folks. You could find out who their people are? What kind of folks are they? There would be a number of people who could give you information on a person. For example, there was the guy that I liked some years ago. He did not live in the neighborhood I grew up. However, he lived in the same city and grew up there. I was able to find out much about his family, and I concluded that he came from a trash family and I would not be willing to associate with any of them. Therefore, he was not suitable.

P.S. The mf had the nerve to blow up my voice mail number whining about what happened. Of yeah this was the number I gave to men that I did not want to be bothered with or I wasn't sure I could want to be bothered. I rarely gave my home number to dudes.

Another reason why I would not call a dude back is any sign of a fragile, needy, insecure personality.

P.S.

I notice with some dudes you are chatting up that they try to impress you by dogging their own women out. I guess they think I am going to feel superior that you supposedly hold women outside of your culture to high esteem, but think your own women are shit and berate them ever time you get. This turns me off big. If these women aren't worth a darn, what about your mama who is a member of this group? I will throw away your number and not call you back. I may not care for particular invidual men in my group, but generally I got mad love for them and will never berate them to some other dudes outside of my group.

[Babine]

Originally Posted by Pooky

I hate a liar, and the fact that he could act like everything was okay and I would not remember the fact that he told me he did not have any children. I finished my dinner and politely told him I needed to go to the ladies' room and went right out of the door and got into my car and went home.

There are so many chitty dudes out here. O yeah he was a Naija!


This was during my African men phase. God I hate a liar.

I advise my younger female relatives to due a simply background check on dudes.

Before nko? To date...marry....live with a Nigerian dude....You have to be ready......The most difficult thing you will ever have to do in your entire life.....that your head must turn to 'grinding stone' or you have not even started.

Na only strong women fit to handle them ooooooooooh.....not for wimps at all.

Liars ke?....that is a gospel...they are ALL liars! Period!

You MUST ready to turn both Black Mamba and Agbero...if you are good....you become a piece of trash.....guaranteed!

You MUST learn karate/fisticuffs/ji-jitsu/kung fu combined...
You MUST know how to shout well well(especially with his nosy, jobless family members)....
You MUST have a JOB.....plus be educated...paid fully by your parents...not him......
You MUST sabi phock well well(the only thing wey dem sabi be dat)......
You MUST sharpen your tongue if he tries to put you down...curse the hell out of him...(But please make sure the kids are in school or far away from the house...Lock the doors and deal with yourselves...where problem start...just call the cops to lock his arse up for a week...then use his paycheck to bail him out)

Yes...I have one at home too.....thank God I do not have to do it over again.

He is potty trained.....and so I am....custom made to fit......

Abi honey mi...nor be so?

We don show ourselves all the "pepper"....for disi world Oooooooooooooooh! Chai! Nothing to do again but to enjoy the love...peace...and happiness......We are so proud of ourselves.

If you are over 30(old cargo phase)....sorry you cannot manage them......you need at least 20 years to really enjoy peace and quiet in that your home.....

You are better off dating and marrying a 'Martian'.......

I give you 'foreign' ladies super gold medals wey dey date we African dudes O! Unu dey try gaaaaaaan.....Me no for try am...na condition make crawfish bend...walahi...too stuck to have a "root" transplant....But I will never repeat the experience....so let it just be as it is or it gets mooooo berra!

Heeeeeeeeeeey...Thank God...

Things are gerrring berrra.....Things are gerrring berrrrra.......

No retreat....no surrender....No peace flag...either!

YouTube - Titanic- White Flag

[Vade Mecum]

Excerpts From Rachel Greenwald's Book: Why He Didn't Call You Back

REASON HE DIDN'T CALL BACK

THE B.I.T.C.H IN BOOTS @ Page 128

Who wants to walk on egg shells for the rest of your life ? ---Randy, 34, Burlington, VT @ Page 128

I'm not looking for a pushover, but a little compassion goes a long way. ----Grant, 29, London England @ Page 128

It was like trying to hug a porcupine.----Walt, 41, Detroit, MI @ Page 128

The Bitch in boots is a woman who does not seem kind. Sometimes she's impatient or easily irritated. She can act entitled or passive-aggressive. She's quick to snap at someone who annoys her, including both strangers and people she knows well. She might have traces of ..... pushy, aggressive, or cross examining mannerisms, but men don't perceive her attitude as coming from a ticking biological clock. They think it comes from deeper anger issues or just a b.i.t.c.h.y. temperament. @ Page 128

Men catch a glimse of this prickly attitude on a date and get edgy and nervous, hoping not to be the next one in her receiving line. A few men actually quipped, "She kind of scared me." Jim a thirty-three-rear-old book illustrator from Philadephia, PA, remarked, "Who wants to wake up every morning and wonder if she's Dr. Jekyll or Mrs. Hyde ?" @ Page 128

Even the Bible says, "It's better to dwell alone in the wilderness than with a contentious and angry woman. (Proverb 21: 19) @ Page 128

[Babine]

Excerpts From Rachel Greenwald's Book: Why He Didn't Call You Back

REASON HE DIDN'T CALL BACK

THE B.I.T.C.H IN BOOTS

Who wants to walk on egg shells for the rest of your life ? ---Randy, 34, Burlington, VT @ Page 128

No problem...he comes from a family of beetches...and a beetch gave birth to him...he should be used to it by now.

I'm not looking for a pushover, but a little compassion goes a long way. ----Grant, 29, London England @ Page 128


It was like trying to hug a porcupine.----Walt, 41, Detroit, MI @ Page 128

Not bad then...try shagging an Aki or a Paw Paw...

The Bitch in boots is a woman who does not seem kind. Sometimes she's impatient or easily irritated. She can act entitled or passive-aggressive. She's quick to snap at someone who annoys her, including both strangers and people she knows well. She might have traces of ..... pushy, aggressive, or cross examining mannerisms, but men don't perceive her attitude as coming from a ticking bilogical clock. They think it comes from deeper anger issues or just a b.i.t.c.h.y. temperament. @ Page 128

Tell him to stop whinning....beetches to not care.......He needs to move on.......no one wants to deal with his 'broke' arse!...Ticking biological...physical...or chemical clock....Not all women are crazy about 'reproductive prowess'...or having "ISSSSSSUES" with retarded douch-bags.....

Men catch a glimse of this prickly attitude on a date and get edgy and nervous, hoping not to be the next one in her receiving line. A few men actually quipped, "She kind of scared me." Jim a thirty-three-rear-old book illustrator from Philadephia, PA, remarked, "Who wants to wake up every morning and wonder if she's Dr. Jekyll or Mrs. Hyde ?" Even the Bible says, "It's better to dwell alone in the wilderness than with a contentious and angry woman. (Proverb 21: 19) @ Page 128

Good...or become a "homo"..... Beetches do not entertain 'douch-bags'! That makes them highly irritable....Look for a Zipporah or a Deborah..or a Sarah or a Magdalene...or a bare foot Countessa!...rose:


No need to call back abeg....go to the African jungle to import one "Mbeke" or "Mbafolina" or "Mgborie" or call 1-888-NKIRU SYLVANUS!!!!

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[Vade Mecum]

Originally Posted by Babine

It is not by force....Afterall a bitch gave birth to him...and he came from a family of 'beetches"....he should be used to it by now.

Excerpts From Rachel Greenwald's Book: Why He Didn't Call You Back

REASON HE DIDN'T CALL BACK

THE B.I.T.C.H IN BOOTS @ Page 128

The word BITCH is from the author. Rachel Greenwald is a woman, not a man

She is a graduate of Harvard Business School

[Auspicious]

+

Gosh, all these crazy back and forths.

What, are people exhaling their individual frustrations or wot? I mean, ain't nothing new about potential partners meeting one another and liking one another - or, for any reason whatsoever (from the mundane to the serious), meeting one another and either one of them (or both) concluding that they ain't suitable for one another. I mean, that's life and, therefore, there is hardly any need for either party to get all strung-up mad about it - especially in a massive world abundant with choices like we've got. (Do I hear an Alleluiya?).

LG - Life is good o'jare, we thank God for his mercies. Not all men are good and not all men are evil, neither are all women good or evil for that matter. The idea is to sample the lot, pick your own, and go on from there to live your life happily ever after - or choose to be an Oprah or a Condoleeza if that rocks your boat (or Ship..or Yatch or..Spacecraft). And yes, you can also sooze to be a Hefner or a..a..Cooper or that Big Boy in Atlanta that folks are rumoring to be gay cuz he ain't givin' them some-some. . Eh, life is good I say!

Me, I have decided I want our Black Rose to look my way. No, I mean Oluwato (Amen, Amen, Amen, Ameeennn, blessings and Glory!) No, I mean SeriousNaijaBabe. Argh, doggone it, I mean Bebi. Arch, mein gott, I mean Condoleeza (gosh, those legs..THOSE LEGS!). Whatever, how about Ooprah? Yes, Ooprah and those lips..and the simmering fire that flickers in those eyes, waiting to be fueled into a blazing inferno of passion. Umm, BeyAunceh? Neh, she too fine for me. I like some ruggedness. Hey, wat about Babine, hmm..fiesty-fiesty-freaky.

Err..it's Friday noon, where your brains at? Good afternoon.

This is Auspicious.

[Rose]

Originally Posted by Auspicious

Me, I have decided I want our Black Rose to look my way. No, I mean Oluwato (Amen, Amen, Amen, Ameeennn, blessings and Glory!) No, I mean SeriousNaijaBabe. Argh, doggone it, I mean Bebi. Arch, mein gott, I mean Condoleeza (gosh, those legs..THOSE LEGS!). Whatever, how about Ooprah? Yes, Ooprah and those lips..and the simmering fire that flickers in those eyes, waiting to be fueled into a blazing inferno of passion. Umm, BeyAunceh? Neh, she too fine for me. I like some ruggedness. Hey, wat about Babine, hmm..fiesty-fiesty-freaky.

I hope you learned why I don't return your calls now.