Can You Marry A Guy You Are Older Than?

CAN YOU MARRY A GUY YOU ARE 6 YEARS OLDER THAN:

A very close friend asked me this question and i told her that it all depends on how one feels..if one feels comfortable with the relationship then she should go ahead...

now that i am thinking about it, my first reaction would have been ..NO WAY!!!! but thinking about it, and judging from my friend's relationship with a younger guy, i realised that they were good together and he still earned her respect....

i might not be able to say i can do it if you ask me the very same question but if he is the only guy on earth that makes me happy and has a big and mature mind then i would.

what do you guys think from your own opinion?

OverLoad · Oct 16, 2007 , 04:20 PM

Depends...hw much younger are we toking here?.....
Is it a toyboy ...as in if am like 15yrs older.....
or is it someone am 1 month older than or less than 3 yrs older than....
also depends on where we are in life...if we are in our 40's .......pssh i ain even thinking twice, i wan marry am die nii.....
if we are in our 20's that one na totally different ball game....

*just being silly shaa*...this friend na you ooo..

*

mulan · Oct 16, 2007 , 04:28 PM

Hmmm.....

6 years plenty oooo. To me one or two years makes no difference if the person shows maturity and meets all my other prerequisites. However, like Overload said, if we are talking about a guy who is over 35years old already, that might level things a bit...

but still Hmmm........

Vade Mecum · Oct 16, 2007 , 10:41 PM

If a male and a female are close enough to start asking questions regarding marriage,

I guess the question about age compatibility ia already too late.

I have observed that spiritual,physical,emotional, and mental maturity and intelligence

cannot be determined by age.

I have also observed that different individuals have different aging circles.I have seen

much older persons looking younger,more beautiful and more attractive than much

younger persons.

If you have communed with God and you are rest assured that you are in God's will for

your life regarding your life partner,do not worry even if the whole world is worried

about your decision.

Tony Okosun

.bebi · Oct 16, 2007 , 11:53 PM

Originally Posted by Anthony Okosun

If a male and a female are close enough to start asking questions regarding marriage,

I guess the question about age compatibility ia already too late.

I have observed that spiritual,physical,emotional, and mental maturity and intelligence

cannot be determined by age.

I have also observed that different individuals have different aging circles.I have seen

much older persons looking younger,more beautiful and more attractive than much

younger persons.

If you have communed with God and you are rest assured that you are in God's will for

your life regarding your life partner,do not worry even if the whole world is worried

about your decision.

Tony Okosun

U r so right.I have a male friend who I'm 3 and a half years older than but he's more mature than most older guys I know,has almost if not all the qualities that I want in a guy and he really liked me at a point but I don't think it would have worked.My psyche will always be that I'm old enough to be his mum.

Rose · Oct 17, 2007 , 12:11 AM

It's ok for others, but I wouldn't.

Vade Mecum · Oct 17, 2007 , 12:23 AM

Originally Posted by .bebi;

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U r so right.I have a male friend who I'm 3 and a half years older than but he's more mature than most older guys I know,has almost if not all the qualities that I want in a guy and he really liked me at a point but I don't think it would have worked.My psyche will always be that I'm old enough to be his mum.

My psyche will always be that I'm old enough to be his mum.[/QUOTE]

bebi;

What if he is a real good guy.All round perfect.

God fearing,caring family man and your intellectual match.

Financially secured etc etc etc

And all he his looking for is a mum in his wife.

Tony Okosun

Vade Mecum · Oct 17, 2007 , 12:25 AM

Originally Posted by Rose;

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It's ok for others, but I wouldn't.

What are the reasons for your disinclination ?

Tony Okosun

.bebi · Oct 17, 2007 , 12:34 AM

Originally Posted by Anthony Okosun

My psyche will always be that I'm old enough to be his mum.

bebi;

What if he is a real good guy.All round perfect.

God fearing,caring family man and your intellectual match.

Financially secured etc etc etc

And all he his looking for is a mum in his wife.

Tony Okosun[/QUOTE]

He's all that o and fine on top of it but nah,I don't want to feel like a mother to my husband.In fact,at a point I noticed I was getting along more with younger guys and the thing worry me small o.

katampe · Oct 17, 2007 , 12:36 AM

Originally Posted by .bebi

U r so right.I have a male friend who I'm 3 and a half years older than but he's more mature than most older guys I know,has almost if not all the qualities that I want in a guy and he really liked me at a point but I don't think it would have worked.My psyche will always be that I'm old enough to be his mum.

I think that sure is your enlightenment test.

Why don't you let the guy worry, while you have his chassis assets at your beck and call? I mean with all the wiry muscles , et al you are sure to be kept busy till old age.

I think this another way of taking a conservative / liberal test.

I am not sure a man would frown at dating a younger woman with everything still intact, abi wetin folks talk?

.bebi · Oct 17, 2007 , 12:40 AM

Originally Posted by katampe

I think that sure is your enlightenment test.

Why don't you let the guy worry, while you have his chassis assets at your beck and call? I mean with all the wiry muscles , et al you are sure to be kept busy till old age.

I think this another way of taking a conservative / liberal test.

I am not sure a man would frown at dating a younger woman with everything still intact, abi wetin folks talk?

Well I failed the enlightenment test woefully but I don't regret it.

Vade Mecum · Oct 17, 2007 , 12:43 AM

Originally Posted by .bebi

bebi;

What if he is a real good guy.All round perfect.

God fearing,caring family man and your intellectual match.

Financially secured etc etc etc

And all he his looking for is a mum in his wife.

Tony Okosun

He's all that o and fine on top of it but nah,I don't want to feel like a mother to my husband.In fact,at a point I noticed I was getting along more with younger guys and the thing worry me small o.[/QUOTE]

Have you not heard it said about the strongest and most macho of men

That when the chips are down,such men are but mere babies in the arms of their wives

Do not be misled,everyman is unconsciously searching for his mum in his wife

Tony Okosun

.bebi · Oct 17, 2007 , 12:52 AM

Originally Posted by Anthony Okosun

He's all that o and fine on top of it but nah,I don't want to feel like a mother to my husband.In fact,at a point I noticed I was getting along more with younger guys and the thing worry me small o.

Have you not heard it said about the strongest and most macho of men

That when the chips are down,such men are but mere babies in the arms of their wives

Do not be misled,everyman is unconsciously searching for his mum in his wife

Tony Okosun[/QUOTE]

Ok,more like I don't want society to see me as his mum.

sandybaby · Oct 17, 2007 , 10:29 AM

come to think of it, you can date a guy that is 10yrs older than you and he would still behave like a baby....behaving like a baby in front of your girlfriend, spouse or wife is a normal thing for guys...they like to be petted romantically!!! BUT intellectually, i think if a guy as mature as that does not have a goal, focus, ambition and plans for the future, then wat is the essence of marrying him depite the fact he is older than you with 10yrs.

whereas, if a guy that is 6 years younger than the lady acts intelligently and he's got plans, goals, understanding and is a good decision maker. From the way he behaves and handle things, you might even be blinded to the age difference.

SOOOOOOOOO, "who would you prefer? A man 10yrs older than you without a sense of direction OR a guy 6 yrs younger than you with all sense of direction?

Rose · Oct 17, 2007 , 01:38 PM

Originally Posted by Anthony Okosun

What are the reasons for your disinclination ?

Tony Okosun

For some reason I'm never interested in younger guys. I'm too negative on the idea.

Sweet-joy · Oct 17, 2007 , 01:50 PM

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To me o! i can't marry him, i won't even go out with a guy that am older than with 1year not to talk of ALMIGHTY 6years...(1) i won't respect him (2) I will be seeing him as a baby (3) I will feel too cheap (4) It will make me look too despriate (5) What will people say and how will they take me? the guy himself will not be comfortable with me, if i try to make a point or give advice, he may take it to be that am over shadowing him or controlling him etc so i will advice who ever is involve to go out there and get better and matured (that is older than her o!) guy that has good qualities of a husband.

Had it been they are age mates i would adviced her to go ahead or let's say a year older but 6 NO NO NO!!!

But she can still marry the guy o if only age is no longer on her side!

sandybaby · Oct 17, 2007 , 02:04 PM

na wa o!!!!!!!!!!

omojeje · Oct 17, 2007 , 06:04 PM

If a man is one second younger than me, I will not marry and thats just me. The decision is the lady's because some men are least bothered about it. If a woman likes a man that is 6yrs younger than her, it all in her court but personally, I cannot.
Omojeje

Oru-Ama · Oct 17, 2007 , 06:16 PM

I personally will not marry a guy I am even one year older than. I will always have the age gap at the back of my mind. My husband is six years older than me and he is like a senior brother to me, and that I like so much. Come to think of it, will families in Africa allow their son to marry a women who is older? Being nice and all that have little or nothing to do with it. In marriage, there are good times and bad times. What happens one day when both of you disagree and he goes... you dont act your age, bla bla bla. Will you ever forgive yourself?

Mikky jaga · Oct 17, 2007 , 06:55 PM

All these is assuming he told you his real age. He may be suffering from an acute hyper inflation of the length of time he has sojourned on planet earth. What difference will that make? When it comes to the real act of love; age, I am told, is just figures.