To marry or not to marry….

My people,

Abeg help me with my dilemma….

I would be 31years old in a couple of weeks and should be happy that my very good friend Ola has finally decided to take the next steps and is ready to commit in marriage to me. However this is not the case with me. We have...

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[Amy]

Originally Posted by Oluwato

There are saved and unsaved Christians. Both, depending on many reasons, sin. One of the sins they commit is fornication. Kindly update your knowledge on people who call themselves Christians, they are capable of doing anything!

Oluwato,

Please o, how can a Christian be an unsaved Christian? What then is the significance of the word 'Christian' if an individual is not washed by the blood of Christ? Not all that call him Lord are Christians. Only the Lord knows them that are His indeed! Hope we do not adopt worldly clichés that have no biblical foundation. Seems to me that one is either a Christian saved by the power of God or one is not a Christian at all... end of story!

@ AV,

I am surprised it took this thread for you to figure that a married man is a no go area. Oh well, whenever an individual wakes up is her/his morning, I guess. Better late than never! He was bad news from the word go. I commend your decision to cool off for a while and rearrange your priorities.

Half the reason for success in marriage is choosing well from the get go. Take the time you need and be fully persuaded in your own heart before committing yourself to another person for life. Now... for the rest of your life sounds like a pretty long time. No need second guessing yourself once you take that plunge, so now is the time to correct any imbalance in your life and create that balance between what you desire and how you conduct your life and relationships on a daily basis.

Later o.

[Alexa]

Originally Posted by Ranter

,You now totally lost me.

Ranter,this confusion is what results when you keep missing Sunday school classes.

[Auspicious]

Originally Posted by smilee

Whatever you do, married man would...so wrapped with Mr married man... whoever is meant for you would come chasing you - minus married men ooh.

Hi, Folks!

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

On behalf of ALL MARRIED MEN, I hereby rejister my strong protest against the bashing of married men here, elsewhere and whereeverelse such bombastic acts occur.

Married men are unique, and they come with something all these young hounnds don't have - EXPERIENCE! They are experienced in everything marriage - loving, shagging..you name it!

Please, let the bashing of married men stop fortwith. Any act of bashing of married men will be met byforcely with legal implications that will bleed any basher of married men to his or her last penny!

MARRIED MEN ARE HUMAN, TOO!

MARRIED MEN NEED LOVE!

I am Auspicious.
For, and on behalf of Married Men Association, NVS Chapter.

[blooming_i]

MARRIED MEN ARE HUMAN, TOO!

MARRIED MEN NEED LOVE!

Lol Auspy! Yeah, they need love. The more reason they should be faithful to their wives to get this love in portions.

[Auspicious]

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Oooooh, Bloomeey!

I have been authorized, again, by concerned married men around the World and by the powers vested in me as the Official Spokesperson of Married Men Association (International and Beyond) to further warn Ms. Blooming_i (and all others concerned) to desist from further stereotyping of married men in the manner yawl have been doing.

Married men are just as faithful, sweet and loving as any other specie or category of human beans out there. In-fact (and quite frankly), married men are more faithful than many of the Single Young Ogbologbos out there who, along with their Female Counterparts, have turned prowling around for Ogbonge Babes and Bobos into recreational sport (and art form).

Many of the aforementioned Single Young Ogbologbos and Ogbolobabes have been so active with their 'lifestyle', that they have just about given-up on Gymnastics (amongst other Gym activities) in the Gym for Bedmatics in the Bed to "stay in shape". One "Yoruba Lady" was recently quoted as encouraging her friend to adopt the "lifestyle" thus: "Waa wa in Good Shape to ba try e".

CAN YOU IMAGINE! Iru aye wo n'iyen? What kinda life is that?

Yes, believe it or not, the Lady in Question was recommending the 'sport' for her friend to "stay in shape"(!) Furthermore, many of these young broads (bloods?) have taken to specifically targeting married men (and womens) on the premise that this category of people "give less drama", as they are "more mature!" and less "..'ot brorded"

So therefore, again, I beseech that yawl stop forthwith the persecution of married men, otherwise, you would be subjected to the harshest legal meandering that you have ever - ever, ever, ever - endured. We trust you don't want to spend all your life-savings paying for something you could easily have avoided by giving married men their dues: simply as a Hot Commodity.

So therefore, BE WARNED! To be fore-warned, is to be fore-army.

Auspicious L. Suspicious (Esq)
For, and on Behalf of "Married Men United "(International)

[Auspicious]

Originally Posted by Iya Ijo Number One of NVS

There are saved and unsaved Christians.

Yes, Yes...! I AGREE!

And Yes, we have CHRISTIAN ALMAJIRIS too!

Right here on NVS, we have them.

And we know who THEY are!

I am Auspicious.

[Celticologist]

Dear Anonymous,
Greetings from a player who's been there and done all kinds of things. See, I for one think you have no problems at all; you appear to be a bit overspoilt for choice. I have a feeling you are already messing with the married guy since he may be filling certain vacums in your life, perhaps fulfilling certain needs too. But if I'm wrong, it would be that you are almost there, cos I'm a bit amused why you would be comparing both men in the first place. The single friend with zero baggage, the un-single guy with exponental baggages.

So what you take married men for?. We gots the money, the cards and the digits, we gots the ride, we gots the moves with all those colorful things that will make you an envy among your friends who are undecided about good life on the fast lane!. And we gots the right story to tell when we run into some slim female we desperately want to shag!.

"Uhh..errr... me and my woman is cool but we are going through some things right now".

If you buy that, I tell you, your life will never be the same afterwards, the more smarter you think you are, the more suprized you will be when you get pregnant and we become heck difficult to find.

It's as simple as that.

With regards to the other guy who appears to be the best for you, I will advice you speak to a pasta?. This is what most marriage age confused females do; look for your pasta!.

[Auspicious]

Originally Posted by Celticologist

Dear Anonymous,
Greetings from a player who's been there and done all kinds of things. See, I for one think you have no problems at all; you appear to be a bit overspoilt for choice. I have a feeling you are already messing with the married guy since he may be filling certain vacums in your life, perhaps fulfilling certain needs too. But if I'm wrong, it would be that you are almost there, cos I'm a bit amused why you would be comparing both men in the first place. The single friend with zero baggage, the un-single guy with exponental baggages.

So what you take married men for?. We gots the money, the cards and the digits, we gots the ride, we gots the moves with all those colorful things that will make you an envy among your friends who are undecided about good life on the fast lane!. And we gots the right story to tell when we run into some slim female we desperately want to shag!.

"Uhh..errr... me and my woman is cool but we are going through some things right now".

If you buy that, I tell you, your life will never be the same afterwards, the more smarter you think you are, the more suprized you will be when you get pregnant and we become heck difficult to find.

It's as simple as that.

With regards to the other guy who appears to be the best for you, I will advice you speak to a pasta?. This is what most marriage age confused females do; look for your pasta!.

Ah, Celticologist for PRESIDENT!

AuspY.

[Auspicious]

"BEWARE OF MARRRIED MEN!!!"

[Knightofdelta]

Originally Posted by Ranter

,You now totally lost me.

I am lost too...

[Nwanyi Oma]

@auspy,
wetin these babes they yarn 4 de video wey u post abeg?

[Nwanyi Oma]

@anon,
am glad u took the time to read VM's post cos he made a lot of sense, it wld do u good to chew on his words.
if you can be reasonably sure that ola loves you and u can identify some important qualities in him which you can live with, then my advice is girl go 4 it.
believe me girlfriend it is much better for a guy to love you a lot more than u love him. u beta shine your eyes be4 its too late.

A word is enough 4 the wise.

cheers n goodluck.

[Auspicious]

Originally Posted by Nwanyi Oma

@auspy,
wetin these babes they yarn 4 de video wey u post abeg?

Nne you be 'Bota', too?

You nor hear Pidgin?

Abi na the Naija Accent dey too 'Thick' for you?

If one or more of the above is the case,

Then Go back and wash di Fideo again..

And see wia dat Chuchu point to eim Toto call am "Gold".

Then come back and axe me more Kueshon, You Hia, Nne?

Get Saved!

AuspY.

[charles4u]

[QUOTE=Nwanyi Oma;305246]
believe me girlfriend it is much better for a guy to love you a lot more than u love him. u beta shine your eyes be4 its too late.
QUOTE]

Ohh ic, make ur guy love u more and u love him less..see your mouth

Its like u just came to earth abi ?

Anyway na u sabi ..u love am o and u no love am oo...if him won leave he go leave ..GATTA

[Oluwato]

Originally Posted by Amy

Oluwato,
Please o, how can a Christian be an unsaved Christian? What then is the significance of the word 'Christian' if an individual is not washed by the blood of Christ?

You asked me a question, then answered it! See the emphasis below!

Originally Posted by Amy

Not all that call him Lord are Christians. Only the Lord knows them that are His indeed! Hope we do not adopt worldly clichés that have no biblical foundation. Seems to me that one is either a Christian saved by the power of God or one is not a Christian at all... end of story!

If many call themselves Christians even though in reality they are not, then they are unsaved Christians. What "seems" to you can be unseemly to another. Biblical definition and as you call it, worldly cliches have to be properly defined for thorough examination and understanding. Don't forget, I am writing to an AV who has not declared her "Christian" status. My response is primarily to her.

Thanks so much!

[Solid]

Originally Posted by Oluwato

You asked me a question, then answered it! See the emphasis below!



If many call themselves Christians even though in reality they are not, then they are unsaved Christians. What "seems" to you can be unseemly to another. Biblical definition and as you call it, worldly cliches have to be properly defined for thorough examination and understanding. Don't forget, I am writing to an AV who has not declared her "Christian" status. My response is primarily to her.

Thanks so much!

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You both are saying the same thing.

About the main palava. I have carefully read a lot of advice from villagers, but I think many of them are cautiously avoiding the main issues. I will break it down as follows:

1. You don't mess with a married man and call him a lover. You are wicked for infiltrating the territory of another woman.(period!) What is the intent; break them up and dislodge the woman of her family. Will you accept such a treatment? Why do to others what you will not take?

2. The long time lover, Ola, why is he not commiting?....did he 'touch-down' on the golden-gate alittle too easily or quickly or often? Oh I know.....the bargaining 'bait' was lost and the 'fish' has no reason to come begging! We must begin to use some old-time wisdom in handling every matter under the earth.When we release our best foot or strategy in a hurry; your companion will hold an upper hand in the deal........I bet, after 5 or more years, he will come back and utter a few words.......and all the flood-gates in the dam will break open!

Fornication, believe it or not, has its venom. Its unholy nature makes it look/feel thrilling, exciting, overwhelming and outright explosive...! Now, after the act many things or events follow.

a, You start thinking whether it was worth the trouble.

b, Are the consequences things I can handle.

c, The guilt, the loneliness when Mr. partner is gone.

d, How about the ultimate covering from God? Can you bear to live a life without God's presence in you?....which is, by my assessment, the most damaging factor!

e, Like somebody already mentioned, Mr. Married seems to be enjoying the best of two continents. Thinking that he is smart......he is also under curse and must do something to free himself.

f, You are damned, if his wife is a praying woman. Because, she is not under any spiritual hinderance, her prayers and call for vengence will land at God's throne unabetted....and answers will be flowing in speedily. Who knows. maybe, this apparent confusion is an answer to her prayer!

...........

My advise;

1. Knee down and repent for the mistakes done and allow God to forgive you and clear your path. The good thing is, all have sinned and fallen short of God's grace......so, He is ready to forgive if we come to Him with a repentant heart.

2. Drop the two cowboys and start afresh with a new person. But, this time, pray specifically for marraige, and put your 'crown' on "lock down" until all the most important details has been discussed and agreements reached, with a CLEAR HEAD on both sides!

3, Mr. Right will come rushing down the aisle to take your hand in marriage!


Thanks,

SOLID