This is a sad trend I noticed in Nigeria.
Of the 3 major tribes in Nigeria,Igbos are the least polygamous in modern times.Almost all of my father's contemporaries have just one wife.
But things have taken a turn for the worse in my generation and those a little older than me.
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I just read your gibberish lyrics, even after it has been edited by whomever, it still lacks substance. If anything can be understood from the nonsense you wrote, it is not to engage in insults and innuendo with someone like you.
For one thing, I realize how shallow you are trying to cover it up with the hope that I will be drawn into the same crass and gutter language like you which you must have been tutored in one of those markets. That is the difference between a show of class and tasteless. I will not get into that gutter with you.
Now you have made some assumptions that are very damaging to someone you hardly know who is only trying to share her experience. It reflect more on who you are than who she is. Take up a mirrow and look at yourself, you have spitted out your bile all over your face and it is not pretty.
Believe me I do not think anyone would envy your low expectation of achievement of anyone or yourself, but then, a kid that has only been to her father's farm thinks .... a world of herself, like you. Inflated ego without limit must burst as you have. It is all reflected in your words, language; and assumptions of those you hardly know.
I think I should let you wallow in your own mess.
Thank you very much Mr Namio
Lyrics ke...no be song O...No be song
I see you lack the fortitude to last the course.
I am quite ready to punch your lights out, for daring to show up here antagonising people with far more superior intellect and reasoning ability than you can ever hope to have.
Anyhoo....I hope you don't trip up on that cowardly tail between your shaky legs.
I guess the real victims know better than a faceless male on the internet
The above picture is from Indonesia
A country with a 90% Muslim population.
God save the child
__________________ I love laughter, I love romance ,if you ask me, the former is superior~ lateesha
It is you who knows what interlect is, the same you who knows what reasoning is and who has ability? Poor you, you still think you can slip in one of those self serving high school debating tactics. Haven't you grown a little since then?
Now. My dear liloldlady, what is this your obsession with my blokos again? You have to clean up all that bile spilled all over your face, listen to those music I gave you before you can queue for a number. Even then, you may not get it with this attitude.
By the way, a husband is not just a husband just like a wife is not just a wife. It is a need, to come home to, on whose shoulder you cry, discuss problem with, laugh with, share jokes with and even fight with. He or she is always there when there is nobody. Don't forget, if you leave, those toy boys are not matured enough to carry your inflated ego.
Originally Posted by liloldlady
Thank you very much Mr Namio
I see you lack the fortitude to last the course.
I am quite ready to punch your lights out, for daring to show up here antagonising people with far more superior intellect and reasoning ability than you can ever hope to have.
Anyhoo....I hope you don't trip up on that cowardly tail between your shaky legs.
liloldlady
Now. My dear liloldlady, what is this your obsession with my blokos again?
Don't mock yourself...You know I could not care less, so don't change the topic of discussion. we are talking about Polygamy.
Stick to the discussion will ya
By the way, a husband is not just a husband just like a wife is not just a wife. It is a need, to come home to, on whose shoulder you cry, discuss problem with, laugh with, share jokes with and even fight with. He or she is always there when there is nobody. Don't forget, if you leave, those toy boys are not matured enough to carry your inflated ego.
You see, now you are using what little brain you have....good effort.
For one second you had me worried there....I was scared stiff you had garri between your ears...don't scare me like that again you hia.
So now, you know that having a husband or wife is not about hopping from one warm bed to the next.
Now you know that having a husband or wife, is not about setting women up to be warring factions in the same home.
Now you know that having a husband or wife, is about having a safe place to land, a confidant, a soul mate. Which is impossible when people are being set up to fight each other to the finish.
Now you know that having a husband or wife is about sharing ones life, having shared experience and history. having good memories to look back to.
and not about remembering the suffering and lack of peace that constituted their journey in marriage.
Now you know that having a husband or wife, is raising kids and giving them the best start in life, by providing them with an enabling environment that meets their need to be healthy,full functioning adults without baggage. who one day can look back at a happy and healthy home environment and pass same unto their own offspring.(Please tell me how many products of Polygamous homes you have encountered, who want to pass on that legacy to their own children)
Now you know that having a husband or wife, is about making sacrifices, delaying gratification, for the betterment of ones spouse and marriage.
Namio mind yasef O....
No come yarn that yeye yarn you been dey yarn before.
Mee no wan ves. like my Jamaican friends will say.
Too many PMs and speculative allusions! Similar or faked writing styles does not the same person make.
The lexically challenged who get off on dirty talk are beginning to take the dull the wit of one who would otherwise have been shrewed enough to read between appropriate lines.
Originally Posted by liloldlady
Thank you.... I take it all you were blowing in this thread is turenchi then
especially this.......
Or this......
".....
I have a piece of advise that will serve you well to heed.......NVS is like any village, real world or virtual...It hears much but forgets little.
always put that at the back of your mind when you tell it things.
I don call my insurance say I wan insure my thing. Can you imagine men "joking" about women thin like that? If na joke. No woman will respect a man without it, polygamy or monogamy.
Why do you blow hot and cold. Will the real liloldlady stand up?
Now that the bile is coming off your face, just realize that men will never stop, no matter where they are. It is only in some parts of Europe and America that hypocrites defend monogamy, especially serial ones. Polygamy is what the rest of the world practise: like it or not. Chikena.
Originally Posted by liloldlady
Don't mock yourself...You know I could not care less, so don't change the topic of discussion. we are talking about Polygamy.
Stick to the discussion will ya
You see, now you are using what little brain you have....good effort.
For one second you had me worried there....I was scared stiff you had garri between your ears...don't scare me like that again you hia.
So now, you know that having a husband or wife is not about hopping from one warm bed to the next.
Now you know that having a husband or wife, is not about setting women up to be warring factions in the same home.
Now you know that having a husband or wife, is about having a safe place to land, a confidant, a soul mate. Which is impossible when people are being set up to fight each other to the finish.
Now you know that having a husband or wife is about sharing ones life, having shared experience and history. having good memories to look back to.
and not about remembering the suffering and lack of peace that constituted their journey in marriage.
Now you know that having a husband or wife, is raising kids and giving them the best start in life, by providing them with an enabling environment that meets their need to be healthy,full functioning adults without baggage. who one day can look back at a happy and healthy home environment and pass same unto their own offspring.(Please tell me how many products of Polygamous homes you have encountered, who want to pass on that legacy to their own children)
Now you know that having a husband or wife, is about making sacrifices, delaying gratification, for the betterment of ones spouse and marriage.
Namio mind yasef O....
No come yarn that yeye yarn you been dey yarn before.
Mee no wan ves. like my Jamaican friends will say.
A problem identified is half solved... a lesson I learnt while growing up.
As long as polygamy in any form (polygyny, polyandry, polygydry, serial adultery, and even fornication) is justified mentally, legally or socially, the evil it breeds will always continue. As a female who grew up in the polygamous evil, married someone with greater polygamous evil than the one I was exposed to and have been delivered and anointed to warn others, I strongly urge and lovingly implore; stay away from sexual sins and if you're in one, agree WITH God that it is a sin and ask Him to deliver you. A word is enough for the wise!
__________________ If God says yes, and you say no, you have disagreed with God and have made yourself, "God" - Oluwato Everything is by the law of sowing and reaping - Terry Mize
I keep six honest men. They taught me all I knew. Their names are What, Why, When, How, Where and Who - Rudyard Kipling Without faith (trusting God), it is impossible to please God - Apostle Paul
Everybody is ignorant, just on different subjects - Will Rogers Elohim made Adam (humans) in His image, in His image He created him, male (zakhar) and female (neqeba) he created them - B'resheet (Genesis) 1:27 "...without TRUTH, education is moved to the skeptical, spirituality is moved to the mystical, and art is moved to the sensual." - Ravi Zacharias I am the Way, the Truth and the Life - Jesus Christ I am Adonai's righteousness in Yeshua HaMashiach (Jesus the Messiah) - Oluwato [based on 2 Corinthians 5:21] God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say thank you? Baruch atta Adonai Eloheinu Melech ha'olam todah rabbah - Blessed are You O Lord our God King of the universe, thank You very much. What you bow your knee to while you are climbing your mountain of life, is what will own you when you get to the top. - Lance Wallnau
This world from which we learn everyday is darn too vast a place - darn too complex viz-a-viz its vastness - for any bloody citizen of this same world, be ye Jewish, Muslim, Christian or Harikrishna, to assume that the rightness or wrongness of anything begins or ends with his Faith.
This is why the violent extremism of others is rejected wherever it manifests, for such is no less intolerant or judgemental of others than that of those who cast others who may not share their worldview into some imaginary cocoon of evil out there. Evil has many faces, including the so-called pious ones.
Polygamy would not be the first option for most people, especially when in these modern times, it may not be a realistic choice as it was in the time past, from way back in the days of Solomon the Wise, to the days of our fellow Africans (amongst others) for whom it was a normal way of life.
We all have friends who were born into polygamy, and God knows, that even if today's realties make the choice unattractive for many amongst them, none of them are evil - not their parents, the wives or their children. Folks need to attend to the evils in their own lives that makes them so judgemental of others!
Auspicious.
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Too many PMs and speculative allusions! Similar or faked writing styles does not the same person make.
The lexically challenged who get off on dirty talk are beginning to take the dull the wit of one who would otherwise have been shrewed enough to read between appropriate lines.
My mum was the first wife; the typical "go to England wife who works & supports hubby while hubby goes to school in the 1960's. They returned to Nigeria and things started to happen"
My dads excuse to marry others was because my mum only gave him one boy and he wanted more. Of course that made me & my female siblings feel great
Ironically when my dad sadly passed away, it was us kids from my mums side who actually buried him because the others were too young and didn't have any money & didn't put down a penny.
Today I wish he was around to see what we have all become. The only boy from my mums side is a £1,000 a day contractor & is a great pride to our family. My mum went through hell at the time and didn't even know about the existence of a second wife until the woman had delivered.
There is over a 30 year age gap between me and the last of my dads kids. Infact one of my children is older than some of them.
Today I thank God that my mums hard work was not in vain and she is enjoying the fruit of her labour.
Polygamy just ruins lives and wouldn't advise it to anyone
chaircover
__________________ I love laughter, I love romance ,if you ask me, the former is superior~ lateesha
Lai-Lai.
i have half-siblings from three different mothers. A nightmare at best.One day i hope to write my story.I would never wish polygamy on my worst enemy.The paranoia of "who is doing me",even if whats going wrong might be normal to the average person out there.The deceit,back-biting,quarrel and squabbles,hate,jealousy,overly competitive,survival of the fittest at such younga ages,etc.
I could go on and on.I cannot count how many ex-boyfriends(okay just two) i broke up with immediately i found out they already had kids.I will never accept to bring my kids up in such hostile environments.And teh choices we make as parents ALWAYS affects our kids one way or another.My kids deserve the best and the best they shall get when the time comes.
aprilstorm
__________________ I love laughter, I love romance ,if you ask me, the former is superior~ lateesha
i dislike my dad so much for being a polygamist, the thought of it makes me sick. i certainly wouldn't want to have anything to do with my steps. trusting them is way out of the question. NO
jiffy
__________________ I love laughter, I love romance ,if you ask me, the former is superior~ lateesha
I felt very safe my dear, my Dad, God bless his soul was rich enough to give each wife a house, rides and all to make her comfortable. He had three wives and they all lived in different towns. He was working alot around the country so we the kids usually went for holidays wherever he was at the time. If you visited my home, you would never know about the other women. That was my father's style.
I have family friends from Polygamous home too and in their case they all lived under the same roof, from my observations things were ok. I personally believe that for those who have the money to take care of their wives and numerous kids, things were ok, but for the poor ones it must have been nasty. Money and understanding play alot in polygamy, without both the house will be on fire. The women should be reasonable women, not vindictive witches. My step mums are educated, reasonable women, who by chance found themselves in their situation. I must say, we were lucky to have my Dad, who did provide adequately for all.Why he got into it, i do not know.WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE. MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE.
bebe2007
I don't know whether to laugh or cry
__________________ I love laughter, I love romance ,if you ask me, the former is superior~ lateesha
There are a lot of challenges too, all in all it should not be encouraged. The husbands always die first before their wives, the pressure is always too much. Its the quickest way to a man's grave i tell you. The kids are not really affected, thats if they are well taken care of but the wives and husband, are ususally emotionally disturbed or unhappy. I would not encourage polygamy.
bebe2007
Hmm
emotionally disturbed moms and dad will rear kids unaffected by the ills of polygamy.
Miracles do happen under those sheets
__________________ I love laughter, I love romance ,if you ask me, the former is superior~ lateesha
>>>I felt very safe my dear, my Dad, God bless his soul was rich enoughto give each wife a house, rides and all to make her comfortable. He had three wives and they all lived in different towns. He was working alot around the country so we the kids usually went for holidays wherever he was at the time. If you visited my home, you would never know about the other women. That was my father's style.
I have family friends from Polygamous home too and in their case they all lived under the same roof, from my observations things were ok. I personally believe that for those who have the money to take care of their wives and numerous kids, things were ok, but for the poor ones it must have been nasty. Money and understanding play alot in polygamy, without both the house will be on fire. The women should be reasonable women, not vindictive witches.My step mums are educated, reasonable women, who by chance found themselves in their situation. I must say, we were lucky to have my Dad, who did provide adequately for all.Why he got into it, i do not know.WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE. MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE.
bebe2007<<<
I've noticed that the women are usually called witches... especially in Yorubaland, maybe they are, I truly wonder why, but there is this other question I asked that most run away from... are the men wizards?... don't birds of the same feather flock together? That is an interesting thought....
>>>>There are a lot of challenges too, all in all it should not be encouraged. The husbands always die first before their wives, the pressure is always too much. Its the quickest way to a man's grave i tell you. The kids are not really affected, thats if they are well taken care of but the wives and husband, are ususally emotionally disturbed or unhappy. I would not encourage polygamy.<<< bebe2007
Do most of the husbands die first?...hmm, that would be an interesting study... this Bebe 2007 needs mental health assistance but at least the person is not encouraging polygamy, that's a start.
__________________ If God says yes, and you say no, you have disagreed with God and have made yourself, "God" - Oluwato Everything is by the law of sowing and reaping - Terry Mize
I keep six honest men. They taught me all I knew. Their names are What, Why, When, How, Where and Who - Rudyard Kipling Without faith (trusting God), it is impossible to please God - Apostle Paul
Everybody is ignorant, just on different subjects - Will Rogers Elohim made Adam (humans) in His image, in His image He created him, male (zakhar) and female (neqeba) he created them - B'resheet (Genesis) 1:27 "...without TRUTH, education is moved to the skeptical, spirituality is moved to the mystical, and art is moved to the sensual." - Ravi Zacharias I am the Way, the Truth and the Life - Jesus Christ I am Adonai's righteousness in Yeshua HaMashiach (Jesus the Messiah) - Oluwato [based on 2 Corinthians 5:21] God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say thank you? Baruch atta Adonai Eloheinu Melech ha'olam todah rabbah - Blessed are You O Lord our God King of the universe, thank You very much. What you bow your knee to while you are climbing your mountain of life, is what will own you when you get to the top. - Lance Wallnau
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