Young Igbo men and polygamy

This is a sad trend I noticed in Nigeria.
Of the 3 major tribes in Nigeria,Igbos are the least polygamous in modern times.Almost all of my father's contemporaries have just one wife.
But things have taken a turn for the worse in my generation and those a little older than me.
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[Iye]

When the world throws you lemons….turn them to lemonade…let Ekwutosi buy earplugs…better still…go for vigils on the days she’s off duty….

[lateesha]

Originally Posted by Babine

Na real sad for who....when I am so waiting for my co-wives to show up....the work is getting too much for just me alone....make I for get chance.....waka as I like boooooo!

Please.....I have a young Igbo man at home(43)....well trained by me for the past 16 years....handsome.....educated....with a lot of school loans to pay......Please if anyone is interested...PM me abeg.....Come and share the love......

PS:

Only ladies between 25-28 need apply.....hopefully with good 'cooking' skills(he eats fufu every night) and the ability to give BJs every night(my mouth don dey pain me abeg)......
Firm boobs....
Perfect lepascious waist and ikebe....very acrobatic......
Education necessary(must be a doctor or a pharmacist....willl gladly assist you with retirement packages and benefits of a US citizenship......


Pleaaaaaaaaaase contact me.


I need at least 5 girls/women.......

Thank you in advance....

abeg post picture abeg
Some people may be looking for a young 40 sumn' year old to fill in the space as and when needed.
But seriously AJ,times have changed.
Even the money miss road OMATA guys respected their madams enough to hide their affairs but now we have college graduates from decent homes juggling 4 thighs and 4 mammaries under the same roof and everyone seems OK with it.
I can't imagine it.
Do they engage in threesomes and the like.
My skin crawls just thinking about it.

[lateesha]

Originally Posted by Iye

When the world throws you lemons….turn them to lemonade…let Ekwutosi buy earplugs…better still…go for vigils on the days she’s off duty….

The prayer vigil is the only solution,ear plugs may not be enough.
I can't imagine sleeping alone at night knowing that my husband is just next door doing ikwokirikwo with another woman.
If that woman doesn't get kidnapped,no ransom demanded ,my name is not lateesha
na wetin.
How can I suffer and build from scratch with a man that had no material posessions when I I said "I do" only for him to bring in one useless small girl some years down the line.
I will wound that girl.

[Balo]

Ridiculous. It's kinda kinky sha, so the man moves from one room to another?? Abi, is that how these things work?

[lateesha]

Balo don't even think abourrit.
Not all wives are lambs,meek and mild
If that woman beats her breasts and swears for you, the oracles may hear her cry and your life will never be the same

[lateesha]

Originally Posted by Balo

Ridiculous. It's kinda kinky sha, so the man moves from one room to another?? Abi, is that how these things work?

With a torchlight too since NEPA may not have light
Imagine a sweaty man wearing a "singlet" and tying wrapper on his waist hopping from one bed to another.
That's the picture in my head.
He may even be whistling to an Osita Osadebe song as he journeys from one room unto another

[Bill Carson]

Originally Posted by lateesha

With a torchlight too since NEPA may not have light
Imagine a sweaty man wearing a "singlet" and tying wrapper on his waist hopping from one bed to another.
That's the picture in my head.
He may even be whistling to an Osita Osadebe song as he journeys from one room unto another

BREAKING NEWS: We the family of Mr. Tiger are happy to announce the acquisition of a brand new wife for our son and the promotion of Lolo Lateesha to the esteem position of First Snr. Wife.

We have observed that Lateesha needs to be allowed more time between 10pm to 3am everyday on NVS advocating “One Man One Woman Syndrome”.

After 14 years of marriage Lateesha needs a home help with running around the house and bringing Tiger’s Slippers while she attend to urgent NVS matters like abusing Superego…….

[Iye]

Haba…latessha…look on the bright side…you have another mate bringing money…so the family purse is expanding…then you don’t have to cook all the time….there some benefits too…I can't even begin to list them

[Oluwato]

Originally Posted by Balo

Ridiculous. It's kinda kinky sha, so the man moves from one room to another?? Abi, is that how these things work?

In some instances I found out that the man summons the "favored" wife, he tells the one he prefers that evening, it is your turn tonight, so actually, his bedroom is the "prized" room...Some actually time each sexual encounter (multiple partners per night), you know, wife A from 9-12 pm and another from 1-3am... also, if the scheduled wife ticks the husband off, he displaces her immediately, it's not strange to hear the night wails of some estranged woman "Emi lokan lalẹ yi, emi lokan", roughly translated "it's my turn tonight, it's my turn tonight"...!

I have an extra compassion for children from polygynous homes, I mean, how do they comfort their mothers? It's a real mental/emotional issue, I'm so glad that my mother never exposed me to that... I truly give God praise for that extra mercy...I shudder to think of what I would have done to the man I called my biological father if such had happened... without that, he knew what I did to him.

Polygyny (and polyandry too) doesn't just damage the women, it also damages the man! I noticed that the children from polygamous homes (particularly polygyny because my sample size has more of that) always have issues with their fathers and they tend to be over protective of their mothers...they basically fall into two categories, those who hate leadership and those who promote ungodly leadership.

Really, sexual sins particularly fornication, adultery and their legalized forms (polygamy) is one of Satan's most effective tools to steal, kill and destroy!

[M. Akosa]

Originally Posted by lateesha

The prayer vigil is the only solution,ear plugs may not be enough.
I can't imagine sleeping alone at night knowing that my husband is just next door doing ikwokirikwo with another woman.
If that woman doesn't get kidnapped,no ransom demanded ,my name is not lateesha
na wetin.
How can I suffer and build from scratch with a man that had no material posessions when I I said "I do" only for him to bring in one useless small girl some years down the line.
I will wound that girl.

GBAM!!! There you go my darling sister Lateesha.

You know it all, you have the right answers to the questions you asked on this thread. You remember you asked people to tell you what they think?
You know in life we can all be going round and round in circles, sweet talking, soothing, cheap talk and all, but we all know the bitter truth.

My advice to any young girl with above average intellect, with good, caring parents to support her post secondary education, is to steer clear of all the curses, wickedness, vindictiveness of polygamy/serial dating. It is not worth it at all. Just consider your children that you bring into this world in that sham arrangement and hurting environment.
The players (men &women alike) or those with the upper hands in any polygamy arrangements have no cares for those at the receiving end. They are just using everyone. Which wife is good enough for only public function, but useless for secured old age and guranteed sustainance, should he man die??? Of course the husband family members will align with the baby Mama and frustrate or chase out the funny looking wife or the witch barren one, as soon as the man is no more.

No right thinkng man, in this day and age will marry two women at once. It is selfishness and wicked.

The worst thing any woman can do her children is to bring them this world and allow them endure all that hate, lies, hurt and cruelty, just for the sake of seeking favours, chasing after worthless and cursed family inheritances.

It is not worth it at all my sister. Polygamy is bad.

[Iye]

Originally Posted by lateesha

With a torchlight too since NEPA may not have light
Imagine a sweaty man wearing a "singlet" and tying wrapper on his waist hopping from one bed to another.
That's the picture in my head.
He may even be whistling to an Osita Osadebe song as he journeys from one room unto another

Now you are painting a real sorry picture…its not like that….the days are divided among the women…say 3days each….so he spend 3nights with one before moving to the next….Also, the woman who’s sleeping with the man will be most likely be the one to cook for the family….blah blah

Well am talking in well advance polygamy setting…Superego can verify…I don’t know what Igbo men are up to though….but if they want to go into polygamy, then they should get it right….not sleep with one woman then go to the next…that’s dirty.

[lateesha]

Originally Posted by Iye

Now you are painting a real sorry picture…its not like that….the days are divided among the women…say 3days each….so he spend 3nights with one before moving to the next….Also, the woman who’s sleeping with the man will be most likely be the one to cook for the family….blah blah

Well am talking in well advance polygamy setting…Superego can verify…I don’t know what Igbo men are up to though….but if they want to go into polygamy, then they should get it right….not sleep with one woman then go to the next…that’s dirty.

You see how he turned out?

[lateesha]

Originally Posted by Iye

Haba…latessha…look on the bright side…you have another mate bringing money…so the family purse is expanding…then you don’t have to cook all the time….there some benefits too…I can't even begin to list them

ROFL.


How many of those second wives work?
They didn't come to work
They came to chop after the work had been done.
Parasites.
The most they do is sit ocassionally at a supermarket the man opened them with their expired weaves and overbleached faces.
It was during my grandpa's time when hands were needed on the farm that they worked.
They forget that the same way they replaced the bonafide wife is the same way they may be traded in for a newer model.
I would really love to see the face of a second wife when a third or 4th wife moves in.
It's a snap shot worth capturing.

[Iye]

Originally Posted by lateesha

You see how he turned out?

Are you sure you’re not babasala’s long lost sister…kidnapped by the Igbo neighbor….comedy is in you DNA…

[Namio]

Originally Posted by UncleTisha

Bros Namio,

You harsh o!

Abeg you know where I fit get the Mp3 for dat baba eto wey you nack for there?

Uncle Tisha,

Try Idumota for Adeolu and Osita Osadebe MP3

[DoubleWahala]

I find this thread quite weird. The tendency for women generally to bash men for every real or perceived infraction is just off the hook here!

While polygamy is not my cup of coffee, I fail to understand why women in this thread will not equally direct their 'venom' to the women out there, who knowing fully well that the man is married, still agree or actively encourage him to marry her and move her into his matrimonial home.

The day women themselves refute polygamy, it will stop happening.....after all, it takes at least two to tango. Stop the one-sided blame; it should go to women as well.

DW

[denker]

people:

methinks, the posts here just dey scratch on the surface...right questions must be asked:

1. ...the state of mind of people dat get involved in multi-maritial activities...(polygamy(polygyny..?)
2. ...wat brings about dis state of mind...?

...are igbo-women secured in marriage...are they protected by law...wat about inheritance right..is there equality b/w wo/men....etc

[Balo]

Are you guys telling me that one can get to shag as many as four different women in one single day.. Hmmm, let me go and buy a four inch helmet before I reach house, I think it is worth a discussion tonight?

[liloldlady]

All these men who are doing polygamy or Polygyny or wharrreva....I hope they do DNA tests, for the pikins dem too.

Pesin wey no get pikin with wife no1, suddenly becomes fertile turtle with wife no2.....get as im be.

Stuff has been known to happen....

[Tunde meee]

We have explored and possibly exhausted the main theme here. We have found that we have no religious restrictions (http://nigeriavillagesquare.com/forum/lounge/36454-welcome-christian-polygamy.html) and definitely no cultural restrictions for at least we Africans.
At the end of the day it's all down to choice. If a lady prefers a man with 33 wives so be it and if another prefers a serial monogamist Let them be. There is nothing sad about it lady Lateesha