Originally Posted by 19 guy 
Incidentally, the young doctor recently killed by a househelp was married to a former classmate and friend of mine.
sorry to hear about your friends loss, and i am not saying househelps never do wrong - any heterogenous group of people will have the good, the bad and the ugly, afterall most murderers are non-househelps - but that the general attitude towards them. To my friend who thinks you cannot survive in Lagos without one, in the first place i never said i was a diasporan (i actually dislike that word and like to see myself as a Nigerian living in Europe as i have not been displaced in any way but that is for another thread) and had the same attitude when still at home, this for me is not an issue of convenience or affordability (and "madam" knows exactly where i stand on this and there is no chance of my/our having a househelp as we know it) but of right and wrong, you cannot take advantage of peoples poverty while despising them.