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Living in Nigeria, a business to run and a family to care for with no househelp - your wife deserves a medal!!! how does she do it? And now you have a brother living with you - or is it visiting?

I hope you help your wife with the chores everyday now that you have said no to her having a househelp?

As Lionking wrote it is quite difficult to juggle life in Nigeria without some sort of assistance on the homefront. In a situation where the husband is no help with household chores, imagine how much the wife will have to do - clean, cook, take care of the children, take care of the husband, take care of guests (you will have them) and in all these hold down a full time job or business

I am a bit concerned that your article places a lot of wrong doing on the part of the househelps -

Young women - potential to be witches, snakes, husband snatchers HIV and AIDS carriers.

Young men - randy and irresponsible! and potential murderers

Whilst you hardly paint the employers in such ways, actually they seem to be saints!
If only you know how some employers treat their househelps, you will weep! I know of a woman that threw a burning stove on her househelp because the girl sat on the little stool in the kitchen and the madam suspected the girl was asleep and would let her precious soup burn. Or the madam that administered instant justice on her househelp by sexually violating her, the girls' crime? having the audacity to sleep with her husband, whilst not thinking that this girl was only 14years old compared to her 47 year old husband!! Or the man that had his houseboy in police custody for 5 months because the houseboy had looked at his girlfriend the wrong way!

Just as much as you have terrible househelps so you have awful employers and until our laws are enforced without fear of favour this will still go on.

In your case, you have denied your wife much needed assistance in the homefront. Your wife knew from the start your views on hiring househelps, however due to the strain she is going through she sought to get help, however you denied her that because of unfounded suspicious you have and advise from your visiting brother.

You have also deprived a family somewhere of much needed money. Do you think that parents/families of some of these helps are so callous as to send their children out to be helps in the house of a complete stranger?! Hunger!! my broda hunger!! yes in some cases you find their are greedy parents/guardians but in majority of cases it boils down to need.

Now if some people decide to exploit this, o ku won o ku olorun (between them and God) No condition is permanent.

Finally you have not tested the power of the God you serve. Are you aware of the bible verse that says greater is He that is in me that he that is in the world? No darkness can stand in the presence of Light!

In my opinion, you just did not want your wife to get a househelp period! all the excuses you gave (she didn't greet you - shioo, how do you handle things like that? Is she the one to tell you who is boss or you?) your broda said....., she will turn to snake crocodile etc etc, is what my people call awa wi (excuses!!)

Anyway I wish your wife good health and wellbeing because she will surely need it living in Naija without a househelp - for me o, ose eewo!!!