Don't Marry Career Women O!!!!!!!!!!

[Khalil]

Gud greetings!!!!

I came across this essay few months back.... I think it gud to share it with u wondering why in the 21st century some white thinkers will be blowing the whistle of not marrying career women? Are we trading values with them that they want to take our place in the social equation, leaving us with theirs'? Happy reading.


Don't Marry Career Women

Michael Noer



Guys: A word of advice. Marry pretty women or ugly ones. Short ones or tall ones. Blondes or brunettes. Just, whatever you do, don't marry a woman with a career.

Why? Because if many social scientists are to be believed, you run a higher risk of having a rocky marriage. While everyone knows that marriage can be stressful, recent studies have found professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat, less likely to have children, and, if they do have kids, they are more likely to be unhappy about it. A recent study in Social Forces, a research journal, found that women--even those with a "feminist" outlook--are happier when their husband is the primary breadwinner.

Not a happy conclusion, especially given that many men, particularly successful men, are attracted to women with similar goals and aspirations. And why not? After all, your typical career girl is well-educated, ambitious, informed and engaged. All seemingly good things, right? Sure…at least until you get married. Then, to put it bluntly, the more successful she is the more likely she is to grow dissatisfied with you. Sound familiar?

Many factors contribute to a stable marriage, including the marital status of your spouse's parents (folks with divorced parents are significantly more likely to get divorced themselves), age at first marriage, race, religious beliefs and socio-economic status. And, of course, many working women are indeed happily and fruitfully married--it's just that they are less likely to be so than non-working women. And that, statistically speaking, is the rub.

To be clear, we're not talking about a high-school dropout minding a cash register. For our purposes, a "career girl" has a university-level (or higher) education, works more than 35 hours a week outside the home and makes more than $30,000 a year.

If a host of studies are to be believed, marrying these women is asking for trouble. If they quit their jobs and stay home with the kids, they will be unhappy ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2003). They will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Social Forces, 2006). You will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2001). You will be more likely to fall ill ( American Journal of Sociology). Even your house will be dirtier ( Institute for Social Research).

Why? Well, despite the fact that the link between work, women and divorce rates is complex and controversial, much of the reasoning is based on a lot of economic theory and a bit of common sense. In classic economics, a marriage is, at least in part, an exercise in labor specialization. Traditionally men have tended to do "market" or paid work outside the home and women have tended to do "non-market" or household work, including raising children. All of the work must get done by somebody, and this pairing, regardless of who is in the home and who is outside the home, accomplishes that goal. Nobel laureate Gary S. Becker argued that when the labor specialization in a marriage decreases--if, for example, both spouses have careers--the overall value of the marriage is lower for both partners because less of the total needed work is getting done, making life harder for both partners and divorce more likely. And, indeed, empirical studies have concluded just that.

In 2004, John H. Johnson examined data from the Survey of Income and Program Participation and concluded that gender has a significant influence on the relationship between work hours and increases in the probability of divorce. Women's work hours consistently increase divorce, whereas increases in men's work hours often have no statistical effect. "I also find that the incidence in divorce is far higher in couples where both spouses are working than in couples where only one spouse is employed," Johnson says. A few other studies, which have focused on employment (as opposed to working hours) have concluded that working outside the home actually increases marital stability, at least when the marriage is a happy one. But even in these studies, wives' employment does correlate positively to divorce rates, when the marriage is of "low marital quality."

The other reason a career can hurt a marriage will be obvious to anyone who has seen their mate run off with a co-worker: When your spouse works outside the home, chances increase they'll meet someone they like more than you. "The work environment provides a host of potential partners," researcher Adrian J. Blow reported in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, "and individuals frequently find themselves spending a great deal of time with these individuals."

There's more: According to a wide-ranging review of the published literature, highly educated people are more likely to have had extra-marital sex (those with graduate degrees are 1.75 more likely to have cheated than those with high school diplomas.) Additionally, individuals who earn more than $30,000 a year are more likely to cheat.

And if the cheating leads to divorce, you're really in trouble. Divorce has been positively correlated with higher rates of alcoholism, clinical depression and suicide. Other studies have associated divorce with increased rates of cancer, stroke, and sexually-transmitted disease. Plus divorce is financially devastating. According to one recent study on "Marriage and Divorce's Impact on Wealth," published in The Journal of Sociology, divorced people see their overall net worth drop an average of 77%.

So why not just stay single? Because, academically speaking, a solid marriage has a host of benefits beyond just individual "happiness." There are broader social and health implications as well. According to a 2004 paper entitled "What Do Social Scientists Know About the Benefits of Marriage?" marriage is positively associated with "better outcomes for children under most circumstances," higher earnings for adult men, and "being married and being in a satisfying marriage are positively associated with health and negatively associated with mortality." In other words, a good marriage is associated with a higher income, a longer, healthier life and better-adjusted kids.

A word of caution, though: As with any social scientific study, it's important not to confuse correlation with causation. In other words, just because married folks are healthier than single people, it doesn't mean that marriage is causing the health gains. It could just be that healthier people are more likely to be married.

Guys: A word of advice. Marry pretty women or ugly ones. Short ones or tall ones. Blondes or brunettes. Just, whatever you do, don't marry a woman with a career.

Just checking to see if you are still the sole bread winner of your home. It might work for you but will NEVER work for some of us. So to each his or her own then.

Not a happy conclusion, especially given that many men, particularly successful men, are attracted to women with similar goals and aspirations. And why not? After all, your typical career girl is well-educated, ambitious, informed and engaged. All seemingly good things, right? Sure…at least until you get married. Then, to put it bluntly, the more successful she is the more likely she is to grow dissatisfied with you. Sound familiar?

Not really. There are many men out there who had working mothers that have come to realize that it takes a joint effort financially to raise a family in the 21st century. If it does not work for you, it does not mean it will not work for others. Most women do not want to be "single" but married to men that do not come home for their children's birthdays because they are too busy working "businessmen" overtime. Besides most women are tired of burying their "breadwinner" husbands because the role is really not one a single person...male or female can handle alone.

Furthermore, most women die from "staying at home" full time jobs from than from "career jobs"......I bet that would suit you just fine since you can just easily have her replaced while you continue with your recreational 'get out of jail' businessman career huh?

Wake up darling.....this is 2009! More women are becoming the breadwinners of the home with or without a man in it. Really not your choice to choose anymore.

The other reason a career can hurt a marriage will be obvious to anyone who has seen their mate run off with a co-worker: When your spouse works outside the home, chances increase they'll meet someone they like more than you. "The work environment provides a host of potential partners," researcher Adrian J. Blow reported in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, "and individuals frequently find themselves spending a great deal of time with these individuals."

Better than staying home and finding that your driver or gateman is more appealing than you are. Something's gotta give. If you are "inadequate", the woman will find company in the mailman or the milkman.....you will still lose. So maybe you need to address what your insecurities really are huh?

[lateesha]

Originally Posted by Khalil

Gud greetings!!!!

I came across this essay few months back.... I think it gud to share it with u wondering why in the 21st century some white thinkers will be blowing the whistle of not marrying career women? Are we trading values with them that they want to take our place in the social equation, leaving us with theirs'? Happy reading.


Don't Marry Career Women

Michael Noer



Guys: A word of advice. Marry pretty women or ugly ones. Short ones or tall ones. Blondes or brunettes. Just, whatever you do, don't marry a woman with a career.

Why? Because if many social scientists are to be believed, you run a higher risk of having a rocky marriage. While everyone knows that marriage can be stressful, recent studies have found professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat, less likely to have children, and, if they do have kids, they are more likely to be unhappy about it. A recent study in Social Forces, a research journal, found that women--even those with a "feminist" outlook--are happier when their husband is the primary breadwinner.

Not a happy conclusion, especially given that many men, particularly successful men, are attracted to women with similar goals and aspirations. And why not? After all, your typical career girl is well-educated, ambitious, informed and engaged. All seemingly good things, right? Sure…at least until you get married. Then, to put it bluntly, the more successful she is the more likely she is to grow dissatisfied with you. Sound familiar?

Many factors contribute to a stable marriage, including the marital status of your spouse's parents (folks with divorced parents are significantly more likely to get divorced themselves), age at first marriage, race, religious beliefs and socio-economic status. And, of course, many working women are indeed happily and fruitfully married--it's just that they are less likely to be so than non-working women. And that, statistically speaking, is the rub.

To be clear, we're not talking about a high-school dropout minding a cash register. For our purposes, a "career girl" has a university-level (or higher) education, works more than 35 hours a week outside the home and makes more than $30,000 a year.
If a host of studies are to be believed, marrying these women is asking for trouble. If they quit their jobs and stay home with the kids, they will be unhappy ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2003). They will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Social Forces, 2006). You will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2001). You will be more likely to fall ill ( American Journal of Sociology). Even your house will be dirtier ( Institute for Social Research).

Why? Well, despite the fact that the link between work, women and divorce rates is complex and controversial, much of the reasoning is based on a lot of economic theory and a bit of common sense. In classic economics, a marriage is, at least in part, an exercise in labor specialization. Traditionally men have tended to do "market" or paid work outside the home and women have tended to do "non-market" or household work, including raising children. All of the work must get done by somebody, and this pairing, regardless of who is in the home and who is outside the home, accomplishes that goal. Nobel laureate Gary S. Becker argued that when the labor specialization in a marriage decreases--if, for example, both spouses have careers--the overall value of the marriage is lower for both partners because less of the total needed work is getting done, making life harder for both partners and divorce more likely. And, indeed, empirical studies have concluded just that.

In 2004, John H. Johnson examined data from the Survey of Income and Program Participation and concluded that gender has a significant influence on the relationship between work hours and increases in the probability of divorce. Women's work hours consistently increase divorce, whereas increases in men's work hours often have no statistical effect. "I also find that the incidence in divorce is far higher in couples where both spouses are working than in couples where only one spouse is employed," Johnson says. A few other studies, which have focused on employment (as opposed to working hours) have concluded that working outside the home actually increases marital stability, at least when the marriage is a happy one. But even in these studies, wives' employment does correlate positively to divorce rates, when the marriage is of "low marital quality."

The other reason a career can hurt a marriage will be obvious to anyone who has seen their mate run off with a co-worker: When your spouse works outside the home, chances increase they'll meet someone they like more than you. "The work environment provides a host of potential partners," researcher Adrian J. Blow reported in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, "and individuals frequently find themselves spending a great deal of time with these individuals."

There's more: According to a wide-ranging review of the published literature, highly educated people are more likely to have had extra-marital sex (those with graduate degrees are 1.75 more likely to have cheated than those with high school diplomas.) Additionally, individuals who earn more than $30,000 a year are more likely to cheat.

And if the cheating leads to divorce, you're really in trouble. Divorce has been positively correlated with higher rates of alcoholism, clinical depression and suicide. Other studies have associated divorce with increased rates of cancer, stroke, and sexually-transmitted disease. Plus divorce is financially devastating. According to one recent study on "Marriage and Divorce's Impact on Wealth," published in The Journal of Sociology, divorced people see their overall net worth drop an average of 77%.

So why not just stay single? Because, academically speaking, a solid marriage has a host of benefits beyond just individual "happiness." There are broader social and health implications as well. According to a 2004 paper entitled "What Do Social Scientists Know About the Benefits of Marriage?" marriage is positively associated with "better outcomes for children under most circumstances," higher earnings for adult men, and "being married and being in a satisfying marriage are positively associated with health and negatively associated with mortality." In other words, a good marriage is associated with a higher income, a longer, healthier life and better-adjusted kids.

A word of caution, though: As with any social scientific study, it's important not to confuse correlation with causation. In other words, just because married folks are healthier than single people, it doesn't mean that marriage is causing the health gains. It could just be that healthier people are more likely to be married.

Who wrote this silly article?
Some men can't handle well educated women with a career.
The problem is with them ,not the woman.
A woman should learn how to eliminate potential spouses with no confidence.
A man who can hold his own would want a woman at his level or very very close.

[peterosa]

Originally Posted by lateesha

Who wrote this silly article?
Some men can't handle well educated women with a career.
The problem is with them ,not the woman.
A woman should learn how to eliminate potential spouses with no confidence.
A man who can hold his own would want a woman at his level or very very close.

Hmmm i think is better to marry a village girl who can not write her name to be happy than to marry the most educated girl in the world to be sad thru out my life.

Its difficult these days for career women to be honest and lower to their husband.

If you are unfortunate to fall in love with any of them make sure you get rich and stop them from working,wish i know they will never agree to.{SO WHAT WILL YOU CALL THIS TYPE OF MARIAGE}

[Auspicious]

Originally Posted by peterosa

Hmmm i think is better to marry a villager who can not even write her name to be happy than to marry the most educated girl in the world to be sad.

Again, Peterosa goes off-course.

But given that in response to NVS' "LOCATION", you responded with "THE ONLY MAN THAT LIVE IN THE SUN,MOON AND STAR"

I understand - ssssseriously!

Auspicious.

[liloldlady]

Originally Posted by peterosa

Hmmm i think is better to marry a village girl who can not write her name to be happy than to marry the most educated girl in the world to be sad thru out my life.

Its difficult these days for career women to be honest and lower to their husband.If you are unfortunate to fall in love with any of them make sure you get rich and stop them from working,wish i know they will never agree to.{SO WHAT WILL YOU CALL THIS TYPE OF MARIAGE}

Vintage Peterosa.... NVS please clap for him
well done chappie.....you never dissapoint.

[peterosa]

Originally Posted by liloldlady

Vintage Peterosa.... NVS please clap for him
well done chappie.....you never dissapoint.

Thank you very much liloldlady for claping for me,is like you are getting my pin code.

[2plus2]

Is this article a joke. Some men just like being stupid. They want the trappings of wealth, success, wife and children (eventually). They do not want to put in the hard work with wife - economic crucnh, everyone MUST work regardless of where you are.

As for vintage P. Hmmm. Clearly he's not married. Otherwise, it would be a different story. No need to stress out over the article.

I'm sure some caveman living in some ditch somewhere wrote it and received thunderous applause from an equal lot of other cavemen. What can I say.

[peterosa]

Originally Posted by 2plus2

Is this article a joke. Some men just like being stupid. They want the trappings of wealth, success, wife and children (eventually). They do not want to put in the hard work with wife - economic crucnh, everyone MUST work regardless of where you are.

As for vintage P. Hmmm. Clearly he's not married. Otherwise, it would be a different story. No need to stress out over the article.

I'm sure some caveman living in some ditch somewhere wrote it and received thunderous applause from an equal lot of other cavemen. What can I say.

My dear who said i am not married?if you want to know who the queen of my life is just PM me and i will let you know thanks.

[Ph3y]

Originally Posted by peterosa

My dear who said i am not married?if you want to know who the queen of my life is just PM me and i will let you know thanks.

We don't need to PM you o...Just answer this question for me. Does your wife work or she just sits at home all day??....

By Work i mean does she do anything that brings money in; regular paid job or business i.e self employment. In my dictionary any woman who does not sit at home doing nothing is a career woman. even if she sell groundnuts or boli.....

[peterosa]

Originally Posted by Feyi

We don't need to PM you o...Just answer this question for me. Does your wife work or she just sits at home all day??....

By Work i mean does she do anything that brings money in; regular paid job or business i.e self employment. In my dictionary any woman who does not sit at home doing nothing is a career woman. even if she sell groundnuts or boli.....

{If it may interest you to know}she don"t work,do you have any problem with that.

[Ph3y]

Originally Posted by peterosa

{If it may interest you to know}she don"t work,do you have any problem with that.

You mean she does not do anything At All? No shop, No business, No buying and selling.....she just stays at home doing absolutely nothing??

[Balo]

Does it really matter if Osa's wife works or not. If he and his madam are happy with the arrangement, why then should others complain as long as they are not breaking any laws? Each to their own, abi?

[lateesha]

He's not complaining,how do we know she's not?

just a thought

[Balo]

Agreed but there is no evidence to suggest that she is not happy with their arrangement, in the absence of that I see no reason to be Osa's back.

[peterosa]

Originally Posted by Feyi

You mean she does not do anything At All? No shop, No business, No buying and selling.....she just stays at home doing absolutely nothing??

No she is a full time house wife and we are both happy do you have any problem with that?

[peterosa]

Originally Posted by lateesha

He's not complaining,how do we know she's not?

just a thought

I think our mode should be able to define how we are internaly,i am a happy man and my wife is not complaining either.

If you are un happy with your husband or being rud,control or un faithful to him that is your own cup of tea is non of my business.

[peterosa]

Originally Posted by lateesha

He's not complaining,how do we know she's not?

just a thought

If you insist you want to know that my wife is not complaining i will advice you pay me a visit THANK YOU.

[lateesha]

peterosa,I remember your threads about having girlfriend issues just a few weeks ago
when did she metarmorphose to wife?

[peterosa]

Originally Posted by lateesha

peterosa,I remember your threads about having girlfriend issues just a few weeks ago
when did she metarmorphose to wife?

Where you praying for me to remain in friendship without marriage.